Finding the one that you love enough to spend the rest of your life with shouldn’t mean putting up with some things. There are certain types of men that women should never consider marrying.
Here is a list of ten of those types of men:
Cheater
If you have caught this man cheating, you should run, not walk, away from him. If he is known to cheat in previous relationships, what is to stop him now. Things do happen sometimes and people that normally wouldn’t cheat find themselves in that exact situation. However, if the man that you want to marry has done it more than one time you should re-think marrying him. If he has cheated in your relationship before you get married, that’s a warning sign. Heed it. It really isn’t worth the cost in the end.
Controller
Finding yourself in a situation that he likes to control what you do, you need to get away from the relationship and never marry such a man. A man that likes to control your actions now will be even worse when you get married. You may see him as a caring man right now, but when you get married and live with it for many years, you will find yourself in a situation that you don’t want to be in.
Physical Abuser
A man that has physically abused anyone, ever, is definitely someone that you should extract yourself from immediately. This is a dangerous situation and not worth what it could cost you. If he has ever laid a hand on you, the police should be involved, not a preacher. Get away from him now!
Non-worker
A man that won’t work isn’t worth having. A man should take pride in himself and his ability to work hard to earn a living. If he won’t work hard to get the things he wants or needs then he won’t work hard in the marriage to make it work. If he doesn’t have a job or the ability to keep one, get away from him, at least until he proves himself. The thought of living on love is great but it doesn’t really work that way. If a man doesn’t take pride in taking care of his family, then he doesn’t deserve to be married.
Drug/Alcohol Abuser
These guys can be a lot of fun, at first. Going out and having a couple of drinks every now and then isn’t what we are talking about here. If a man is addicted to drugs or alcohol it only makes sense to stay away from him. Substance abuse often leads to physical abuse later on. It can also lead to verbal abuse. Although these things may not happen, the chances are that they will. Alcohol and other drugs is a mind altering situation that can also lead to cheating.
Lazy
You can’t fight lazy. If a man is lazy and doesn’t want to help you out with anything, stay away from him. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership. If you marry a lazy person, the partnership becomes you doing the work alone. Laziness does not go away. Once lazy always lazy. Unless you want to be the one to do everything, stay away from the couch potato.
Insecure/Needy
A man that is completely insecure about himself will put it off on you. You will be under constant scrutiny by the man. You won’t be able to walk out the door without a lecture on what you should and shouldn’t do. When you come back, you will be faced with a barrage of questions about where you have been and who you have been with. Although it is okay to have conversations about these things, it is not okay to constantly be drilled about it.
Don’t Pay Child Support
If he has children by someone else and he doesn’t pay his child support, that is a great indicator of what type of man he is. If he doesn’t take care of his children, what makes you think that he would do any different for you. A man that doesn’t pay his child support is not a man at all. Keep away from him to avoid the same situation for yourself down the road.
Lives With Parents
This is for older men. If a man is eighteen, then it is more understandable that he wouldn’t be on his feet yet. However, when he gets to the age of about twenty one or so and has shown no effort to move away from his parents, it is not a good sign. How will he take care of two people if he can’t take care of himself? He can’t. Unless there is a really good reason for him to still be living with his parents, it is best to stay away from him.
Won’t Hold Your Purse
This may sound a bit awkward but it’s true. A man that will hold your purse is a keeper. If you need extra arms and he will hold onto the purse for you, he’s a good man. You should cherish him because if he will do that, then he will do anything it takes to make the relationship work. If he won’t hold it, he is saying “I don’t care what you need, I’m not holding any purse”. What else won’t he do to help you if he won’t do that?
These are the ten top things that you should be careful of when deciding to marry a man. You should never marry a man that cannot give the relationship his entire attention. It is important to really take a good look at the type of man that you are marrying. It is for a lifetime.
