Kids grow up so fast, especially in this day and age with the internet and mobile camera phones. With the recent trends of young girls and boys “sexting” each other inappropriate pictures over public networks, the need for good sound advice is crucial.
For Christians the challenge is two-fold, teaching your kids about dating while also teaching your children about God’s way. Especially with all the competition from music, TV, movies, videogames, and the other kids with camera phones that combine all those into one device that fits neatly in their pocket, it’s almost in an impossible task.
The recipe to manage hormones with technology wasn’t exactly in the Bible, and our own ministers at church are sometimes out dated with the newest trends. Plus we have to face facts; Christian teens date and engage in sexual activity just as much as non-Christian teens. But what can we do before that point of crossing?
Well, we need to arm ourselves with knowledge, and the books below go into great detail when it comes to preparing your kids for dating, the Christian way. I have also included a list of numbers for your teens to call if they want to talk to someone who knows the Christian way and can help them in their daily challenges. Please share these numbers with your teens so they can ask the questions they may be afraid to ask you.
Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship by Joshua Harris – This is the follow up to Joshua’s first successful book “I Kissed Dating Goodbye”, and explores dating the Christian way and dating with a purpose. The key to having good relationships is dating with a purpose; just engaging in the motions of love for emotional or sexual rewards is a path to failure. Dating that right person for you and moving towards the purpose of one day being married is so much more rewarding, even when it doesn’t work out.
Secret Keeper: The Delicate Power of Modesty by Dannah Gresh – A great book that tackles the heart of the modern day trend to engage in sinful lifestyles like our heroes on TV. The introduction of modesty back into your young Christian’s life is the second most important tool they will have after dating with purpose, in order to remain pure and engage in healthy satisfying relationship with both God and their chosen partner.
Losing That Lovin’ Feeling by Lour Priolo – This is a solid book that discusses the other side of many young relationships, the break up. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes, especially when it comes to dating, but the feelings attached to those mistaken relationships are real and remain for awhile after the break up. This book helps your young Christian deal with those often turbulent feelings in a healthy Christ like way that is a great read for both young and old.
Doing Things Right in Matters of the Heart by John Ensor – This is a great book that covers a lot of what is wrong in relationships today, and can help your teen engage in better decision making when it comes to matters of the heart. This book establishes the Christian way for all things dating from that first note passed to the break up and explains right from wrong in Ensor’s unique way.
Life Lessons from the Princess and the Kiss by Jennie Bishop and Susan Henson – This is an introductory book for your young princess at home, for girls anywhere from 4 – 10 years of age. The book introduces and begins to engrain purity in the daily life of your young child.
Phone numbers for your young teen to call when in need of advice.
Christian Teen Hotline: 1.800.394.HOPE (USA)
Kids Free Help Line: 1.800.551.800 (Australia)
The Samaritans: 0845.7.909090 (United Kingdom)
Links for your entire family and teens: