Up until recently, my day started at 3 AM when my twin boys would wake in the middle of the night to be fed. Now they let me sleep until 5 or 6 AM. Sometimes they go back to bed and other times, I am up for the day because one or both of them do not want to go to sleep. Since I solely nurse, I have to sit with each boy individually so they can have bonding time, which can take anywhere from 15 minutes to 40 minutes.
My five month old twins don’t nap like they should. It is said they should take at least two 2-3 hour naps. I am lucky if all day long they get 2 hours worth of naps total! From feeding time, it goes to playing time. We only have one jumperoo so the other usually goes on his belly. After that both babies play together on the floor and get some story time. I used to be able to put them down for a nap after that and take my shower, but more times than not, I have the boys in the bathroom with me while I shower. No longer do I get to relax in the shower- I’m usually singing “I’ve Been Working on the Railroad” or some other tune to entertain the babies so they don’t cry.
Finally at 10 AM I can count on one of them taking a nap. The ideal thing is to have them go down for a nap at the same time, but many times one does not want to go down. Otherwise they usually wake up at the same time after about an hour. If only one goes down, I do not have that hour to get tasks around the house done. If I do, I have to do dishes, clean baby bowls, entertain the dogs, try to type some articles, do some laundry, and perhaps eat a meal. There is no taking a nap when the babies nap.
Come 11 AM, one or both boys is up. From this point on, I have at least one twin to entertain at all times of the day. There are some days when I can put them in the Pack n’ Play or Exersaucer to go about doing other things around the house, but other days where they have to look at me the entire time. Caring for twins takes a lot of time and energy, but I would not change it for the world. Sure, it means twice the diapers, but I have two boys who light up every time I come into the room. They constantly talk to me (of course I can’t understand the words that they say) and I know they are happy.
From 6 pm-8 pm every second is dedicated to my babies. This is so they can get good and tired, as well as fill their tummies so they can sleep through the night. Many days it starts as early as 5 PM, but the boys usually let me wander away to go make some dinner. They are first nursed, then put to play while I prepare dinner for my husband and myself. During the time I make dinner, they need to eat oatmeal or rice cereal from the bowl so they’re learning to eat from a spoon as well as get some iron and other vital nutrients to ensure they grow and develop properly. Then 6:30-7 pm they each eat 4 tablespoons of rice cereal mixed with 6 ounces of milk. It’s amazing since they’re only 15 and 16 pounds where they put it all! Finally they know it is time for a bath. They then lie down with me on the bed to comfort nurse themselves to sleep. It amazes me when they chow down like they haven’t eaten all day as these comfort nursing sessions can take up to a half hour for each baby.
I used to wonder why after the babies went down to sleep and I would come down to watch television or a movie with my husband why I would pass out after thirty minutes to an hour. It seems my bedtime nowadays is 9:30-10pm. Yet when I have two babies waking to be fed, whether it’s 3 AM or 6 AM, they bring me the greatest joy of all. Sometimes it can be difficult, especially if I am especially sleep-deprived or it’s been three hours since one even took a five minute nap because the crankiness can be overwhelming. For the most part, it is fairly simple to care for two babies at a time. Since I don’t have any other children, I don’t know any better so I think that is a blessing.
As I finish this article, I look at my younger twin, who was born a minute after his brother at 5 pounds, 2 ounces. He is looking at me with a big smile on his face and talking up a storm. It is time for his play time before his brother (who went down for a nap about twenty minutes ago, about the time his brother was waking up) wakes up again. Being a mother of twins is a lot of work, but it is also the most rewarding thing ever in my life!