In our search for love it is very easy to get sidetracked by bad dates, broken promises, and bad love habits. While these are all a part of dating and finding our happily ever after, bad dating habits can and should be avoided at all costs.
A bad love habit is any dysfunctional, destructive, difficult belief or habit you have when it comes to love and relationships that is keeping you from finding, attracting, or maintaining a healthy relationship. Listed below are some of the common bad dating beliefs.
1 Choosing potential partners who are incapable of meeting your emotional needs.
2 You believe that love has to be difficult, painful, or hard.
3 You expect your potential partner to fix whatever you don’t like about yourself, or your life.
4 You are in fear that time is running out on your chance to find love or your chance to have children.
If any of the above statements sound familiar, don’t fret. You can be helped. With just a little time and effort, you will be able to turn things around. This article will give you five simple and effective tips geared toward helping you break free of limiting relationship belief and your bad dating habits. If you practice them over time, you will be able to kick any bad dating habit for good.
1 Identify what dating traps you are stuck in.
Do you think you have to solve miraculously all of your problems before you’ll be deserving of love? Are you convince that there are no good ones left? If you answered yes to either of these questions, than chances are very good that you suffer form some common dating traps. Of you want to be come a successful single, you will first need to free yourself from these traps. The first step is acknowledging the traps that you are stuck in. After you acknowledge the traps you are stuck in, you have got to break free from those traps, as well as any other limiting or destructive beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
2 You have to assess your excess baggage.
It is very important for you to get honest with yourself about what you might be lugging around with you on your dates, (or in your daily life). What are the things that you are holding onto that no longer serve you? Is it rejection, disappointment, betrayal? These are from your past, not your present or your future. If you have negative or destructive beliefs, or fears that are weighing you down, you owe it to yourself to dump all of that excess baggage.
3 Get rid of the excess baggage.
If you want to have a happily ever after in your future, you have to first trust that you deserve to find a good mate. Gather up all of those painful memories, that chip that you have on your shoulder, any anger that you are carrying around from past relationship experiences and let them go. You have to think of them as lessons that you have learned and be thankful for them. Tell yourself, it is time to stand on your own two feet and not allow anything to weigh you down. Close your eyes and visualize yourself dumping all of that baggage in the trash. Then start to visualize what kind of life you really want to have, complete with your dream job, perfect partner, and ideal home. (Everything you want) By clearly defining what you want, you give yourself permission to attract it.
4 You have to stop putting off your live and your personal happiness.
So many times we put off our personal happiness because we are waiting for some external result. For example many people say they will be happy when: I pay off my debt, I get better job, I loose weight. The truth is that you deserve to enjoy your life right now no matter how imperfect it is. If you stop putting off your own happiness, you will start attracting happy people, healthy relationships, exciting and new opportunities. Instead of postponing your happiness until something external happens, start celebrating your life today. Today is the day to be happy.
5 You have to embrace a new dating vocabulary.
Now that you have let go of the baggage, and you are dating trap free, it is time to introduce a new vocabulary into your dating system. Every morning and night for the next 30 days, practice this exercise: Look in the mirror and say to yourself “My ideal relationship is…” and then fill in the blank with the appropriate words like healthy, whole, loving , fun, or whatever you want. By creating this new vocabulary for yourself, you will be surprised at how your outlook on dating and relationships change, and as a result, you will start to attract happier and healthier potential partners and who doesn’t love that.
So there you have it, the five simple dating tips that will help you break free of limiting relationship belief and bad love habits. Learn them, love them and live them. By doing so, you might just fall in love with your life all over again, not to mention exponentially increase your chances of future relationship success. Happy dating.
Sources:
http://www.bestezines.com/?Lose-Bad-Relationship-Habits&id=6014
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