For both men and women, marriage can be extremely rough and bumpy, especially within the first few years. Problems with money, the kids, and a good or even sex-life only add to the frustration and ongoing tension between a husband and wife. Sometimes people would rather be happily divorced than unhappily married. However, divorce can hit hard and cause psychological and emotional issues. According to a new study, divorce seems to hit men much harder than women, especially when it comes to picking up the pieces and getting on with life.
Statistics Canada, a Canadian statistical agency run by the government, reported that divorced men, age 20 to 64, were up to about six times more likely to develop psychological and emotional issues, such a depression, than were men who were in a relationship or married. For divorced women it was found to only be about 3.5 times as much than women who were also married. The study said that “men appear to take separation harder.”
The study took a total of 10 years to complete. In addition, the Statistics Canada also reported that men and women who were divorced suffered from more problems within the first two years of divorce than those who were married.
Although a man’s quality of living goes up by 10% on average and a woman’s goes down by about 27% when divorce occurs (usually because of the difference in income and the fact that women generally take custody of the kids), both go through changes in life such as difficulty financially and a decline in friendships and other social relationships. Getting through the workday can also be rough, as many divorcees dwell on their issues. It can also be hard on whoever takes custody of the children, if any, even if child support is paid (in fact, other about 1/3 of divorced parents receive child support from their ex-spouses with an average of about $1300 a year). Even for men, loss of custody can lead to severe emotional pain.
Despite all the factors that add to after-divorce depression, it was also found, by Statistics Canada, that the pain eventually dies out and the majority of divorcees move on in life, even while still supporting children of an ex-spouse. Usually depression ended within four years after the divorce itself. This could be due to things such as finding a new partner or spouse and pursuing more goals in life.
Statistics Canada “Divorce hits men harder, study shows.” Herald Sun. http://www.news.com.au/heraldsun/story/0,21985,21780321-5005961,00.html
Bharat Rathode “Divorce affects men more than women. Earthtimes.org http://www.earthtimes.org/articles/show/65575.html