Maybe this has happened to you. After sending out thousands of resumes, you’ve finally lined up an interview. You think you’re doing everything right: you wear your perfect interview suit, you arrive no more than 10 minutes early, you engage in light, friendly banter with the receptionist and then you embark on your interview with your potential employer. You do exactly what the experts say to do for a successful interview…and you think its working. As you leave their office, you think the interview went just great!
Then, your interviewer says those infamous words: “We’ll call you when we make our decision.” Sounds familiar, doesn’t it?
A few days pass and you start staring at the phone, hoping they’ll call. You have your friend call you just to make sure your phone works. You start to obsessively go over the whole interview again and again in your head. You let a few more days pass, and then you call them to follow up. “We haven’t made our decision yet. We’re still interviewing”. Huh? Still interviewing? What’s that about???
Then, it occurred to me. I thought I was through with dating when I got married. I guess I was wrong.
All those same first-date feelings of acceptance and rejection return when you’re interviewing for jobs. “I wonder if they liked me. I hope they’ll call. Do you think they’ll call? They said they would. Maybe, they’re waiting for me to call first? If they liked me, why do they still need to interview other people? I hope I didn’t say too much on the first interview! I hope I said enough! Blah, blah, blah…”
Blind interview/dating is even worse! You think you’ve scheduled an interview at a hip, new start-up company (they sounded so great on the phone!), but you end up walking in to a dumpy 5×5 office and meeting with a “touchy-feely” interviewer who smells like stale cigars and Redbull! As you slam the door behind you in disgust, you say to yourself “all the good jobs are already taken!” (I hope you’re still seeing the comparisons.)
So, what do you do?
Well, you can’t stop interviewing! (You need a job!) When I was dating, my mom would say “Don’t give up! Just be yourself! For every pot, there is a lid!” But, how many job ads do I need to apply to before the “right pot” comes along?
Maybe, that’s why the experts say one of the best ways to find a job is by networking with your friends. Tell everyone you know (subtly or not so subtly) that you are looking for work! Eventually, someone you know may know someone who needs to hire someone just like you! And, we all know, the best dates come from personal referrals!