College relationships can be intriguing, fun and filled with a lot of emotion. Breakups are common place among serious relationships in college due to mounting stress, friend intervention, or a new love has sparked your interest. No matter what the reason may be, breakups can cause some serious pain to any college student that can trigger depression, loneliness, or worse. Dealing with a bad breakup in college especially if it is your first can be a challenging experience, and the hurt may last for many months to come. This article will take a look at how to deal with a bad break up in college and actually better yourself in the end.
College is a time to have many new experiences especially with relationships; you have the freedom to express yourself in the way you want in an entirely new atmosphere. College relationships are relatively easy in college to get involved with since there are a vast pool of different people to meet. Most often times during the dating experience you will have numerous fights since college is also a very stressful period for young people; and you two may share many different point of views. Most relationships in college no matter how serious they may appear will eventually end, and you will be forced to move on. I have dealt with this just like thousands of students before me; moving on can be a hard process and a confusing one if you do not know where to start.
If the relationship was serious the breakup will start to feel like the end of the world, or will feel like your whole world is falling apart. Letting your emotions out is one of the best ways to cope after a college breakup; you can cry, listen to depressing music, or even talk to your friends about how you feel. The breakup happened for a reason, therefore you need to access the situation and figure out what those reasons where. The best thing to do at the end of a serious relationship is self improvement, which will consist of figuring out where you went wrong, what worked and what didn’t, and how you can better yourself in the future. If you get caught up in the “what could still be” you will dig yourself deeper and deeper into a hole of depression and guilt.
If you are already in the hole of depression and guilt, do not worry. Dealing with a serious breakup during college will make you feel like you were rejected and could even make you feel like you were not good enough for anyone. You may think “who would want me now”? The biggest enemy you have to face is your own insecurities; the truth is you will have grown from the past experience, and you will eventually realize someone else would be more than lucky to date you in the future. Instead of getting yourself worked up and spending days feeling sorry for yourself you should try for some self improvement.
Try joining a club, fraternity, sorority, working out, and any other activity that will get your mind going into a different positive direction. The worst thing you can do is become idle; these different activities will allow you to meet many new people who could in turn become potential relationship material in the end. Working out does a great remedy for anyone need to get back into shape or lose some extra weight; not only will getting in shape broaden the dating pool but it will also make you feel confident. My pervious breakup I went to the gym everyday to get my mind off what happened; it worked very well with the result of 20 lbs lost and plenty of new muscles. The most important way to get over a relationship in college is trying new activities that your campus has to offer, and meeting new people. Do not dwell on the past since you will often make it seem better than it was, but instead dwell on the future of what could be with a new partner or love interest. These tips will not only make you a better person, but will give you a completely new perspective on the future after college with someone better than you had previously.