Each one of us has been involved in some type of verbal argument at some point in our lives. For many of us, there have been many of these arguments. While we would like to be right and win every argument, it is simply not human nature, in most cases, for an argument to be won but, instead, ending oftentimes with the parties agreeing to disagree.
In many major metropolitan areas, such as New York City, Dallas, Los Angeles and Chicago, the stress of everyday life can leave many individuals feeling frustrated and exhausted at the end of the day. With this, we often saw the citizens of these cities battling it out in heated discussions at arguments at the end of the day when they should be, ideally, relaxing and unwinding from a long day.
To assist individuals who live in highly stressful, busy, urban cities, such as New York City, Dallas and Los Angeles, if you want to make an impact on the stress level in not only your life but in the life of those around you, consider some important key aspects associated with arguments and debates.
First, with every argument there is a person who wants to win and another person who wants to, well, win. Because winning is a one-sided game, the strategy of negotiation is often needed to end a heated argument or discussion. Therefore, if you are in a discussion or argument with someone, consider implementing the art of negotiation early in the discussion so as to diffuse a potentially volatile situation.
In any argument there is a period between the time the argument begins and the time when the emotions are so intense that irregular thoughts and demands begin to surface. The time between these two phases is known as the “transition zone”. It is during this period that most people make a cognitive decision to step over into the next phase and begin acting out, physically or through irrational demands.
To assist you, and the person you are debating with, in your efforts to resolve a conflict, it is important that you remain aware of the potential for reaching the “transition zone”. Often, by remaining calm and continuing open and honest discussion, you can prevent the conflict from transferring over the “transition zone” and into the next phase where irrational acts of behavior often begin to be displayed.
One of the hardest areas an individual may find in which to control the “transition zone” is when there are two individuals, who do not really know each other, arguing over an accusation from one to the other. If you are the victim of an accusation, the best way to diffuse an argument from moving through the “transition zone” is to accept responsibility for the accusation and apologize, even if you feel you may not have done what you are being accused of doing.
Living in a large city can be very stressful and frustrating. For individuals who experience conflicts associated with simply living in such a populated area, learning to recognize how these conflicts become full out arguments, passing over the “transition zone” may be the key to improving relationship with the citizens in and among the population of the city.