I think EQ is more important than IQ for the success or failure of a student in this world.
IQ’s may be based on a student’s level of knowledge but EQ’s are the level of a student’s ability to emotionally judge situations and/or fit into groups by managing their personal interactions.
EQ or Emotional Quotient is a measure of your ability to notice and then manage your interior and exterior perceptions of your feelings and then control your reactions. Your mood will always control your ability to resolve problems making this an important skill to develop and use. Using a well developed EQ will help you manage your emotions. And developing a higher EQ can be done quite easily.
IQ or Intelligence Quotient is a measure of intelligence. A way to rate this for any individual is by taking an IQ test. An IQ test measures different types of abilities:verbal, memory, mathematical, spatial, and reasoning. This test has a preset standard based on a representative group of the population. The majority of people rank in at about 90-110. Generally, IQ tests actually test general intelligence. Many experts feel IQ tests are a measure of an individual’s problem solving ability and not an actual measure of general intelligence.
The debate about the validity and importance of IQ and EQ continues in professional circles and testing groups. Most large US businesses now screen any potential employees using some form of EQ test.
Necessary social skills that a student needs are associated with high levels of EQ or emotional intelligence. If a student does not develop the EQ skills needed to successfully transverse the maturation process he or she will be left in a situation of having the intelligence to functionally work or play but not have the emotional skills to successfully work or play, thus limiting their potential future. They may have received good grades on tests in school classes but without a working high level of EQ they are unable to function as adult people in an adult world.
Here are a few ways for a student to develop a more mature EQ:
Think about the difference between your feelings and the facts. Make an effort to differentiate between your actual feelings about people or situations and the objective facts involving the people or the circumstances. Being able to recognize these differences will help you judge how and to what level to react.
Instead of thinking or saying automatically “You are an idiot” to someone, think to yourself about their viewpoint before reacting or answering. You may want to ask them a polite question to get more information before making that judgment call. Postponing your rash reaction and seeing it from another person’s viewpoint shows that you are developing EQ maturity.
Consider the situations and the people around you; they may have psychological power over you to create ongoing circumstances that cause you problems. Think about how to change the circumstances in a productive way to help yourself and also not cause them harm.
Then after practicing these exercises; you should feel good about yourself; it is by these action or actions you have practiced that you will develop a better EQ to handle growing up and being the best adult possible in the real world.