Seems like ages ago – but I once was a successful, aggressive, business woman. I worked 60 hour weeks (not including the often jam packed weekends), went on numerous business trips, and took clients out to lunch a dinner on a daily basis. I was your typical, business woman on wheels. All while being a single mom. This was my life for five long years – but I am certainly not complaining. I learned a lot from owning and running a successful business in my early 20’s. I also had a lot of fun along the way. I was making a six figure salary, driving a luxury car, and had a small but loyal group of friends, and countless business contacts. I juggled my business, my son, and my life – all at once.
In 2007, my life quickly changed for the worst and I lost most of business. At the same time, my mother’s health started deteriorating and she was soon diagnosed with late stage ovarian cancer. By 2008, rock bottom seemed like a vacation to me. My mother was fighting a strong battle with cancer, my sister was separating from her husband, and soon I found myself in debt and with nothing left of my once successful business. My mother, who was now starting to worry about my four year old son, who is the love of her life, insisted I get remarried. This was a hard decision to make, as I had decided never to remarry again after my divorce with my son’s father. My mother made it clear that this was very important to her and my siblings and I decided we would do everything in our power to keep at happy.
My parents started looking for someone (that’s how it’s done in our culture) and soon had three prospects for me. While I was exploring those, I met a man online that I instantly made a connection with. To make a long story short, we were married two months later. My husband and I decided that I would stay at home with my son. Sounds good right? Well, it is – but it definitely took some big adjustments to go from a work-a-holic to a housewife.
Here are my lessons learned, recommendations, do’s and don’ts on making the transition a smooth one:
Keep your schedule: In the beginning I found myself sleeping in almost everyday since I was severely sleep deprived from my previous life. All this did was make my body more fatigued and out of sync. I soon found myself having little or no energy throughout the day – this is a big leap from working 60 hour weeks! Keep your routine – especially your bed time and morning rituals.
Reassess your goals and priorities. What was it that you always wanted to do but never had the time before? For me it was my passion for writing. I soon revived an old dream to write a book one day. My second goal was to use my life to inspire others- I started a blog that combined both my love of writing and my dream of inspiring others – and The Universe Guru was born.
Have a daily to do list. I soon realized I had just as much to do now than when I was working full time outside the home. My to do lists includes my day to day activities like grocery shopping or laundry- but also includes my personal goals for myself – such as writing a special piece or marketing my site.
Take the time to enjoy your new found freedom. You are no longer a slave to someone else’s time. Enjoy doing what truly makes you happy and helps you grow as a person.
Enjoy your husband and your children. They are the reason you have decided to stay at home. Enjoy them by planning activities that involve the whole family. Add some silliness to your life.
Reconnect with your family and friends. I had gotten used to hearing a lot of complains from both my family and friends about not having enough time for them. Use this time to reestablish those connections. Schedule lunches with friends and pick a restaurant near their work or make some quick sandwiches and find a bench near them. Schedule weekend shopping trips with your sister or sister in law.
Run your home like you ran your business. Have some structure and discipline in your daily routines. Remember, you are now the CEO of your household. Keeping a routine will ensure you have enough time to get everything done, and have some time left over for your personal goals.
Don’t let yourself go. Maintain your health, figure, and looks as if you are still meeting clients. When we are busy, we complain about not having enough time to work out – accept stay at home moms are often the ones more out of shape than their working counterparts. Eat healthy, maintain your figure, and get dressed every morning. It’s very easy to let yourself go but very hard to get back on track – so keep your beauty rituals!
Have you ever made this transition? Or perhaps you went from being a housewife to a working woman? Share your experience, I would love to hear from you.