Today there are a lot of gay couples that are adopting children and providing them with excellent homes. However, as a gay parenting team many dad teams are facing challenges that can be difficult to overcome. Fortunately, love, patience and a little ingenuity is generally all you need to overcome the challenges that you will face as a gay parenting team.
Tip #1 – Breastfeeding Issues
One of the biggest problems that gay dad teams face when adopting a newborn is breastfeeding. Breast milk is the best form of nutrition for babies, especially during the first three months of their life, however, breast milk is not easy for dad teams to come by. You have several options when it comes to breast milk and breastfeeding. The first option is to have the birth mother live with you during the first few months of the baby’s life. This option really is only viable if you have a good relationship with the birth moth, as some dad teams do. The second option is to have the birth moth breast feed or pump the colostrum for the baby. This is vital for the baby’s immune system. Your third option is to have the birth mother pump, freeze and ship the breast milk to you. This is only a good option if you know the mother is not doing drugs or engaging in other risky behaviors.
Tip #2 – Gay Dad Discrimination
Another big issue that dad teams have to overcome is gay dad discrimination. I saw on a document about gay families that a dad team was pulled over under suspicion of kidnapping because one dad was in the back trying to keep his baby quiet. This type of discrimination can be a problem. Dealing with it will involve a lot of patience on your part and the willingness to educate others on what makes a good family.
Tip #3 – Be a Family First, Worry About the World Second
The best way to create a great home for your children as a dad team is to focus on developing your family first. This means that you focus on creating a loving home environment that is open, caring and supportive. When children grow up in this type of environment they will be better able to handle the other challenges that come with growing up in a world that is sometimes intolerant and unfair.
Tip #4 – Answering Questions
At some point all children will ask about differences that they notice in the world. Sometimes these differences will relate to physical characteristics, and sometimes they will relate to differences between families. If your child asks you why they have two dads instead of two moms you can just explain that every family is different and that as long as there is love and compassion between family members it doesn’t matter if there are two dads, two moms, a mom and a dad, just a mom, just a dad or a mixture of family members.
Tip #5 – Dealing With Puberty Issues
If you are raising a daughter you may face challenges when it comes to her entry into puberty. Since neither parent is a woman you may not know how to deal with or explain things like how to use feminine hygiene products, explain mood swings and PMS or deal with shopping for a bra. However, many dads figure this stuff out and do just fine. If you need help you can always ask a female friend or family member or download information from the Internet on the subject.