When we get bored in our relationships and here I mean sexually bored it usually means we have had enough of the same old routine every day. I don’t care if you are male or female; we all get into the same rut at one point or the other. Let me get very personal here for just a second. Can you reside by heart the way your sexual encounter begins and ends? I mean step by step, including at which point the moans come? If you know within seconds how what transpires, what your partner is going to do and how at each moment of the time, you have reached the one point you don’t want to stay in forever. There is a difference between being comfortable and downright bored to death.
When you have come to this point that is when suddenly other people seem to become a little more then just attractive in the normal way. You no longer just glance, think hot and then forget, but actually lust after that person in a big way. Why? Because your life is so boring, that you would rather do the tax returns.
Now, that is not just ones fault. Remember, you are bored because you are boring. Yes, ladies and gentleman, you are just as guilty. If you were a bit more open to different things, not all stuck in your own way (newsflash for those that know that I am a slave, M/s couples do that too) that you won’t even consider your partners input, are scared to try something new or no longer care to take special pains with your appearance and just see it as another chore to get done, then you have crossed the line. Gentleman, before I go on to the ladies, in order to deserve them to take those special cares, you need to let them know you see it. Ladies, this Article is written for you. I can not speak for the guys, but allow me to give you the secrets I have personally learned over the years.
Fact: A man wants something strange from time to time and even women want that. Before you go crazy on me, I am not saying you have to bring another person into your relationship, but if you want to you can. You however, can become that “something strange”. Ok, so what actually is that something strange? Well, all of us ladies have a “pleasure canal” and we all have T&A. What is different is the way we look, the size of the things and the way we act. We can’t all pay for plastic surgery, but we can change our appearance with hairstyles, dye, wigs, contacts, exercise etc. That is a really good start. Get to know what turns your husbands head and then change your appearance to get as close to that fantasy as possible. Don’t tell him about it so ladies. This is a surprise.
Change your attitude.
I can almost guarantee you that you weren’t always a stick in the mud. I bet that when you first met him, you were this super chick that loved to do things. Then for some reason (we use the excuse life) we changed. We became the Mommy. Yes ladies’, being a Mommy is very important, it is very special and has no place in your bed. When your babies are asleep and you are alone with your husband, you are no longer Mom. You need to remember to be a woman. Yes, she is still in there. If you had a hard day all day long, I understand that you hate to do anything else, but let us be frank girls; doesn’t cuming make you feel good? Don’t you sleep so much better after? I heard that, what if he can’t please you? Well, then teach him!!! Men are amazingly willing to please their woman, even Masters do. My Master is one of the strictest males I have ever met and very stuck in his ways. He hates being told what to do, but if I am very sweet about ASKING, he may not do it right then and there, but most of the time I will receive it later. If you don’t share with your husband what turns you on or off, then he won’t know.
Of course that means you have to get over yourself and be willing to be open. Remember, that is one of the biggest things a Mistress has over you. She is willing and eager to be with him. She dresses up for him. She is a WOMAN!
Get out of those frumpy cloths.
What your husband wants to see is a sexy chick. So trade in those Granny Nightgowns or those shorts you wear to bed unless of course that is his fetish. Either come to bed nude or better yet try some heels, stockings, sexy lingerie, garters, cupless bras underneath etc. Find out what turns him on and then get those outfits. If you are completely clueless, then give this a try. Go out and buy a black garter, black stockings, some high heels (those make your legs and ass look fabulous), a sexy matching black either cupless or lace bra. Get some scented body lotion that you know he will enjoy on you and a nice dress to cover it all. Now, here is the game plan. Put your kids to sleep and make sure they are down for the night. Tell your hubby that you are going to take a bath because you had a long day. Let him do whatever he is doing and don’t say a thing. Then take your bath, light some candles etc. Fix your hair, put lotion all over your body, do your makeup like you would for a special outing, then dress in your news things. If you can’t walk in heels practice first. Then find your lover and surprise him. Remember, he may not react the way you want him to the first time. He could be shocked. Take him by the hand to the bedroom or if the kids are at a sitter snuggle up there. Do you remember how to pet? Then at one point, put on some sexy music and do a little strip tease for him. Out of your dress and let him enjoy the underneath. After that he will either take over or you can strip of one thing after the other, but leave the stockings, garter and heels on unless he wants them off.
Do some small services for him.
If your husband is a nice guy, he won’t have any problems find a female that will. I can bet with you and win; she won’t mind bringing him coffee or tea, rub his feet or let him a bath in. Now, be sure you know your guy so. He could be the submissive type that enjoys doing things for you instead. But most like to have their woman serve them. How about giving your husband a nice bath and then a bit of pleasure without expecting anything in return? No, you don’t always need yours either. Of course most of the time, he will wish to give in return.
Use some toys and rent a movie.
If you are the usual lights out and quiet type, then surprise him by getting some toys and giving him a little peep show. Rent a Porn movie and watch it together until you are both in the mood.
Fetishes are fun.
Why not get a babysitter and greet him at the door in a naughty nurse outfit, be the French maid, or you could be the Police woman. You dress up for Halloween and most of us ladies dress hot. So why not do it any other time.
Be honest with each other.
Ask him, if he could try anything he wanted, what it would be. Please expect to be told 2 women at one time, 90% of men have that fantasy, followed by seeing you with someone else. If you want to give it fine, if not gently bring to conversation to the next options. Then hear him out without getting angry. Make sure to tell him some fantasies of your own. You may find out that you have some things in common. This will take a while for both of you, most guys and girls are afraid to be honest.
A naughty lunch date.
What do you do when you are cheating? You find time to meet each other for some naughty fun. So why not do it yourself? Pick him up one day and take him to a motel. Have a lunch set up already and then be desert. Of course sexy dressed. Room rented ahead of time. Make it sleazy. A one hour motel room with those beds and porn movies. He won’t know who you are anymore. Or if you want to go fancy, get a place that is down right ritzy.
The point is, be something completely different. If you are the normally quiet one, be aggressive. If he likes them submissive, well then be it. If you are blond and he likes black hair get a wig. You have short hair and he loves long hair, hair extensions.
A Mistresses strong point is her availability and that she is willing to be sexy for him, do for him and is eager for him. He is the focal point and not just the dad and provider. He is her MAN. You can do that right?