Getting dumped is something that none of us want to go through, but we do. Most of the time, people don’t know why they got dumped. Many times, the answer is right in front of you. The first step in getting over being dumped, is to understand why it happened. Here are the top five reasons people get dumped.
1 We want a partner that makes us happy even if everything else in our life is going wrong. Sometimes our relationships add more negativity to our lives. When you constantly complain (about anything, parents, school, work, etc.) in a relationship, you are no longer bringing happiness to your partner and will most likely be dumped.
2 Many relationships are ended because of a lack of romance or passion. In the beginning of a relationship, there are roses, candy, sweet surprise visits, and late night conversations. As things progress and the relationship is no longer new, we begin to take each other for granted and sometimes forget to express our feeling. This can cause a total disconnection from each other. If you do not act quickly to fix the problem, there is a huge chance that you will get dumped.
3 Are you a good listener? Most of us would say we are great listeners, but have you ever tried to recall what was said during a conversation and ben unable to do so? It happens to all of us, but when it happens in a relationship, it will cause problem. When one partner feels like they are not being heard, they tend to look for someone who will listen. Most of the time when one partner cheats, it’s not a sexual thing, it is about being with someone who listens to them. If they don’t cheat, they will just end the relationship and then look for someone who will listen to them. You can easily fix this problem by shutting up, listening, and if you need to ask questions. Really try to understand what your partner is telling you.
4 Have you ever heard that you can’t get too much of a good thing? The fact is that in a relationship, there opposite is true. If you are smothering your partner, you will loose them. Your partner has to have time to themselves in order to do what they enjoy, or just hang out with their friends alone. If your always around someone, you never have a chance to miss them! Everyone needs “me time” even when their in a relationship.
5 Spending time together and having quality time are two totally different things. Quality time is actually setting time aside for you as a couple. Getting to know one another better, or simply showing your love and affection are great examples of quality time. We all need love, affection and attention from our partners. If our relationship lacks these qualities, we will seek them out in someone else.
By now, you should know why you were dumped. Next, I will discuss how to get over being dumped.
1 You may feel as if your partner doesn’t return to the relationship, you will never be able to fill the void that they have left. You may feel like you’ll never love again. This is nonsense, your thinking is clouded by grief. You must first understand that you will love again and this relationship just wasn’t meant to last.
2 You have to face the fact that the relationship is over and your partner is not coming back. You may end up crying for hours, of feel hopeless because all of your dreams were shattered. This will be a very painful process, but in the end, you will be able to move forward.
3 Get a close friend who is ready to listen to everything you have to say about your ex. Talk about your pain, until you have nothing left to say.
4 Give yourself time to grieve. You are only human, but don’t let the grieving last too long. If you set a date, and decide to stop grieving on that day, it makes the process so much easier. Grieving for a week is long enough.
5 Keeping busy will help keep your mind off of your ex. A lot of people throw themselves into their work, but you can stay busy other ways too. Try going out with your friends, read a book, or watch a movie.
6 Keep your friends and family close. Isolating yourself will only hurt you in the long run.
7 Create a list for all of the things that you did not like about your ex, add to it daily. You will be amazed at how long it actually becomes.
8 Many times a relationship will end and we will allow our ex over a week, a month, or even two months later. We end up sleeping with them and then have to start this process all over again. My last tip:DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH YOUR EX!!!
Many of us view the end of our relationships as a personal failure, when in truth, you have gained experience, and have learned how to better handle the next relationship. To everyone who has been dumped, my heart goes out to you.
How To Get Over Being Dumped
How to get over being dumped.