If you’re a woman who was in a commited relationship and loved the comfort of being commited but now that you’re single you feel your life sucks, use these simple steps to enjoy living your single life.
1. Re-think your definition of single – If you thought that at your age you’d be commited to someone, you might think that the being single makes you a loser. Or if you’ve always been in and out of relationships for the majority of your life you might be afraid that since you’re single you’re going to be lonely, think again.
Try to see being single as a gift and not a curse, because it’s a time to re-discover yourself and get re-acquainted with the things you’ve might have given up while you were in a relationship. See your single life as a time that’s more than likely going to be temporary and a time for you to grow and expand on your idea of who you thought you were as a person. You don’t have to take anyone else’s feelings into consideration when you’re single and you’re free to do what you want.
2. Get Some Inspiration – In order to feel good about being single it’s important to stop watching those movies and TV shows that re-inforce the old school Disney model of a woman needing a man to rescue her and to make her happy. So ditch Pretty Woman and turn on Sex & The City (yes Miranda, Carrie, Charlotte, and Samantha wound up in relationships but they had such fun in the meantime!) and watch other movies and tv shows that feature strong cool single women. If you have a hard time finding sources read books on powerful women.
3. Ditch your depressed friends – If you have friends who always complain that they don’t have boyfriends or who are so lonely that they’d rather go out with losers who treat them badly just for the company and validation, then expand your circle of friends.
When you’re surrounded by people with good energy and who feel happy whether they’re in a relationship or not, it will inspire you to feel happier with your life as it is, while being surrounded by women who’s lives revolve around men will make you feel desperate to find one yourself.
4. Enjoy Your Me Time – Even though being single costs you the loss of constant companionship, it does give you plent of time to yourself. You can spend your time exactly the way you want to. without all of the conflicts, compromises and stresses that relationships can bring. So take the time that you’re single to really enjoy yourself and accomplish goals.
If you’ve been wanting to make a career change, take salsa lessons, go back-packing through Europe, exercise more or just flirt your butt off, go out and do it! Being single shouldn’t make you feel heavy, it should make you feel light, free, and powerful again because now you can get closer to yourself and do what you want, since your relationship might have held you back.