The way people react to you in any circumstance often depends upon their first impression. It is important to make a good first impression to everyone you meet because you will never know what the future could bring.
But just how do you go about making a good first impression?
It often starts before you have even left your house. You must always do your best to look clean and well dressed. If you’re shirt is dirty, your teeth are not brushed or your hair is a mess, it doesn’t matter what else you do. The first impression of someone you are meeting won’t be positive.
Look them in the eye. It’s important to make a connection. There isn’t a much better way to start than seeing someone’s eyes. You often hear people say I could tell this or that by the look in their eyes.
Smile. Smiling makes you look happy, kind and sincere. It also makes the other person smile. And when they smile, they are happy. The good feelings they felt when they met you sticks with them.
Offer your hand. If someone introduces you to someone or someone introduces themselves, give them a handshake. A nice firm but not too strong handshake is a sign that you appreciate knowing them. It’s such a simple thing but people sometimes forget it.
Be attentive. Always act interested even if you are not. Give this new person your complete attention.
Give a compliment. Find something you like about the person. Does their hair look nice? Is their shirt pretty? Are they in good shape? Do you like their car, or home or desk? Find something but be sincere. Insincerity is easy to spot if you like something for example a shirt and that shirt is old, dingy or ripped.
Keep it light and pleasant. Only focus on something positive. If you have nothing good to say, don’t say anything until your second meeting.
If someone meets you once and you have made a good impression, they will in turn say good things about you to others, be there if you need help or introduce you to someone they think may have similar interests.
That person you just met could end up being your father-in-law, your neighbor, your employer or more. You will never know what the future holds so do not miss a chance to make a good impression on everyone you meet.
Be polite. Manners are always important.
If you have an appointment always be on time. Don’t be late when meeting someone for the first time. That means you do not value their time. Being late for meeting, sticks with a person. It’s better to be early.
It is always good to show a sense of humor. But don’t act silly or make a joke of everything.
Body language is important. Stand straight and keep everything pointed at them. That shows you are focused on them and not something going on elsewhere.
Be confident but not cocky. If you do all of the above it will show you have confidence and you will not need to search for a way to appear confident. Just don’t try to be a know it all. That’s a fast turn-off.
Let them speak. Listen to what they say and limit your opinion at least in the first meeting.
The first thing you must not do is act disinterested. The person you meet may be a neighbor of a friend of yours. You think will never see them again so who cares. Maybe that is true but your bad impression may influence what he thinks of your friend. In turn, it may influence your friend’s thoughts on you. A little bit of polite kindness goes farther than you think.
If you’ve had a bad day, don’t show it. Only show positive sides of yourself. Under no circumstances is it okay for you to tell a perfect stranger bad things about yourself or complain to them. That is one of the worst things you can do. They won’t be sure if you want them to feel sorry for you or if you are just a loser. Keep negative thoughts and events to yourself on the first meeting. Everyone has problems. If they don’t know and care about you they certainly don’t care about your problems.
Don’t talk on a phone or to someone else when meeting someone new. Ignore the phone. They will leave a message or call you back. If you think it is an emergency then excuse yourself. But keep the conversation short. No one wants to feel second best. The phone caller is not there and will wait.
Don’t swear or try to be cool or act superior. Always act like they are the more superior even if they are not. It’s key to make sure others feel important in order to like you. Swearing is not cool but makes a person seem low class. It’s a definite no-no on the first meeting.
It is so hard to change a first impression. If someone has a negative impression, it could take years to change it. Don’t start any relationship badly.If you follow these tips, chances are good people will have a good impression. Good impressions can take you far and should never be overlooked.