If you are a stay at home mom you have probably devoted your every minute second and hour to the well being of your demanding child, you know how it feels to feel trapped in your own house, having to entertain, nourish, comfort, teach, and discipline your own child all at once. It’s hard and during the times we stay at home we often let ourselves go, we don’t put on make-up or pretty dresses, we don’t treat ourselves, we exchange those pretty dresses for mom apparel, we pull back our hair and get our hands dirty, we most importantly loose our social life, how isolated we feel when our only friend at times seems to be that hyper, toddler, we get so lonely that we often become depressed, (of course we hide this) but it’s good to know that you are not alone. In fact, pat yourself on the back for the courageous job your are doing alone, but you must also remember that you do not have to be alone. Get up, get out and make friends with other moms. One friendship or even just having someone to talk to once a week will feel like a fresh breath of air, a burden lifted off of your back, it will give you a reason to smile amidst all the chaos. Below are some ideas on how to make friends as a stay at home mom.
Call your city hall and ask for family resources such as playgroups or activities for younger kids, once you find a place, frequent it as often as you can, and each time you do, take notice of your child and see what kid he or she is connecting with most, then gradually walk over to that child’s parent and introduce yourself, watch the kids play have a couple of laughs, ask the parent how old their kid is, just hold a short , light conversation, repeat this apprach each time you see the other parent and kid at an event or playgroup and then after a few times of seeing the other parent, suggest to the parent that maybe the two of you should have playgroups, then give that parent your number, if you have transportation ,offer to pick the parent and child up, and let the parent know they can he/she can call you whenever he/she feels like it, by saying this you are showing the other parent that you are really interested in meeting for play dates. If the other parent does not give you their phone number, don’t ask wait to see if they call you. If no one calls don’t get discouraged, still talk to that parent when you seen him/her chances are the other parent may feel a little bashful about calling, or may even be too busy, do not distance yourself from the other parent for not calling, only distance yourself if you feel as though you are being an annoyance to the other parent. Hopefully you and the parent will have play dates and the two of you may even get a friendship out of this.
Visit you local library to see if any weekly story hour, activities, or events for kids will be held there if so, frequent these library events and see if your child takes a liking to any other child then introduce yourself to that child’s parent etc….
Invite the neighborhood kids to your child’s birthday party, or by just throw a little party (or cookout) and invite some of the neighborhood kids, you should be able to meet plenty of moms this way.
Lastly, don’t forget to do special things for yourself, don’t loose yourself just because you are a parent happy parents have happy children so dress up and go out for the night with family or friends, don’t be afraid to approach other moms and make friends chances are, they are experiencing the same social isolation as you , you are not alone. Don’t get discouraged if another mom gives you a cold shoulder, this has happened to me and I actually made a friend the same day with a different stay at home mom. Don’t be afraid to open yourself up to a little light conversation with another mother just relax and be yourself, I used to shy away from conversing with fellow moms because I felt that I looked a little run down, and I was moody and tired but one day I just put all those feelings to the side, and ever since I have made a great friend and I feel good, and my child is happier.