As charming as a white thong panty with the word “bridesmaid” monogrammed upon it may seem, bridesmaids in the more mature wedding may wish for something a bit more useful (not to mention more thoughtful). Today, more and more women are waiting to get married until their thirties and forties, yet it can still be difficult to find “adult” bridesmaid gifts that don’t have anything to do with cheap t-shirts, key chains, or hot pink whiskey flasks. This article contains a guide, however, to selecting gifts that will thrill adult bridesmaids and make a positive lasting impression on them.
First, there are a few key points to keep in mind when selecting gifts for adult bridesmaids, no matter what kind of item you may decide to purchase. When making your decision, never purchase gifts for your bridesmaids that they can purchase for themselves. It is likely that each one of them is successful and stable, so avoid selecting gifts that are too low in cost. They simply will not be appreciated, and they will give off the wrong impression. Instead, appeal to the sophisticated side of your bridal attendants and select a gift that is not only unique, but personal. Keep in mind that many wedding specialty retailers offer gifts that are geared toward younger brides with smaller income streams. Your bridesmaids likely know what you can afford, so forgo the cheaper items, even though it may seem at first to be a bit difficult to find anything else.
After half a lifetime of weddings, your bridesmaids certainly do not need more useless gifts such as compact mirrors or tiny silver jewelry boxes that will only hold one bracelet. Give gifts that are heartfelt but useful that they do not already have a closet/purse/home full of. The key is to buy gifts that these women would not usually buy themselves, but that they will still find useful. A good rule of thumb is to buy bridesmaid gifts that are a luxurious twist on a necessity. You might think of purchasing a box of personalized, fragrant guest soaps. You might also opt for a silver picture frame (a classic) encasing a picture of the two of you that is engraved with your attendant’s name and a small message.
Another classic gift is jewelry, but with so many other bridal expenses this idea usually ends up being a mistake. The key with jewelry is never to purchase costume pieces, but rather splurge for the real thing. You will find that a simple pair of pearl earrings doesn’t have to cost a fortune, nor does a sterling silver locket. You don’t have to get too extravagant (unless you want too) with jewelry gifts, but do be certain of your ability to purchase items that are of excellent taste and quality, even if they are simple in design.
If you would like to get a little more personal, you can engrave a gift item with a special message that has been customized for each bridesmaid. Instead of the traditional wedding date that is usually placed on bridesmaid gifts, opt for messages that pertain solely to the recipient. You might try phrases such as “to a great listener,” “to a kind heart,” “to my best friend,” etc. You can rest assured that the extra thought will mean a great deal to each attendant.
Another fun and thoughtful gift idea is to make personalized gift baskets that reflect the personalities of each bridesmaid. To keep the idea from becoming too time consuming or costly, simply use the same basic items in each basket and then add two or three personal gifts. For example, you might fill each basket with a designer fragrance and a set of beautiful earrings, while giving the gardener of the group a few exotic flower bulbs and the business woman of the party a sterling silver business card holder with her name engraved upon it. Whatever you do, simply make sure that each basket holds the same key items, with the additional personalized items staying extremely close in price range to ensure that no one feels underappreciated. When you have selected your gift items, decorate the baskets in elegant wedding ribbons, pearls, etc., that can be found at any craft store.
Regardless of what you decide to purchase your bridesmaids, remember to put a great deal of thought into your selection. These women have likely helped you with the planning of this wedding, taking time out of their busy schedules, and they have evidently made some sort of impression on you in the past or they would not be included in such an elite selection of individuals. Therefore, stay away from the usual bridesmaid gift criteria, and genuinely reward your friends for their participation in your big day.