If you find yourself constantly breaking up quarrels that leave you wondering why your child does not know how to share. The truth is that your child does know how to share, but he is simply inconsistent about it. Part of this can be due to the fact that your child does not have a good concept of time. This makes it difficult for him to wait for his turn. You also need to understand that your child is just now starting to learn how it feels to share. However, take heart in the fact that you can teach your preschooler to share.
The first thing that you need to do is teach your child that sharing is fun through playing cooperative games. Do puzzles together, plant your garden together and send a special snack to preschool for him to share with his class. If this does not work you should not tell him that he is selfish, discipline him or force him to share. This will only teach him to be resentful. Instead, what you want to do is keep on encouraging him to share through positive reinforcement. You should also allow your child to have certain things that he does not have to share.
It is also important to help children figure out why they are fighting over toys. In this manner, you should be able to help your preschooler put his own feelings into words. So, the next time he is not sharing, simply ask him why he is not sharing. You may find that there is not enough of the item to go around or that he has a very special item that you did not even know was special to him. When there is something that can be done about the sharing issue, you should help your child become a problem-solver. Encourage him to take turns while using a kitchen timer to mark each child’s turn, reassure him that sharing does not mean that he is giving the toy away and help him to understand that if he is willing to share, his friends will be more willing to share too.
Whenever you have a play date at your home, make sure that you ask your preschooler if there is something that he really does not want to share. Then you can place these special toys somewhere until the play date is over. You can also ask him what he would like to play with his friends. This will put him in the right frame of mind whenever his friend arrives. Have his friend bring along a few things of his own to share as well.
Of course, you will also have to lead by example. Share things with him and ask him to share things with you too. Make sure that he understands that this is sharing too. You should also let him see you giving, taking and compromising with other people too. After all, you are his role model and he is going to do whatever he sees you doing.