I haven’t spoken to my significant other in over 3 weeks. Why? Because I haven’t needed to.
We’re not mad at each other, falling apart, breaking up, or even bored with each other, we just haven’t simply spoken for 3 weeks.
Not a phone call, text message, hello on the street, or a quick stop at one another’s houses.
Why do people think this is weird? Is it not normal to NOT spend every waking moment together? I mean, we’ve been together almost a year now, and we’ve never done the whole shopping together, dining out together, going to the movies together, picking out groceries together, etc.
I guess we’re just secure enough in our relationship to not need to know what the other person is doing ALL the time.
I know people who call their significant others while they are at work,while they are cooking dinner, for no reason at all. Just to literally say “Hello” and hang up. Seriously?! If I’m going to waste my phone minutes it had better be on something important. I don’t care even if you are the person I consider my other half, I’m not calling you for no friggin reason.
It’s a good thing we both feel the same way about our ignoring one another for a majority of the time. We’re solitary people who just GET each other. We don’t need to be constant reminders in each other’s lives. There’s a comfort in knowing we don’t have to try too hard for each other to know we are happy in our relationship.
Still, every once in a while it’s nice to just be “needy”. Not too often there will be that random knock on the door or that frantic phone call and we’ll be there for one another without question with open arms. We’re there for each other, we’re just not in each other’s faces ALL the time.
It’s the perfect relationship.
We don’t validate ourselves by our “togetherness”. That’s what a lot of people do. They believe their ability to be around their significant other all the time is an example of how strong their relationship truly is. The opposite is true, actually. It is the time you can be apart without FALLING APART that proves whether or not your relationship will stand the test of time.
I suppose we’ll be together for a while, then.
Trust has a lot to do with being able to ignore your better half much of the time. I trust mine completely . Which is why don’t feel compelled to ring them or see them every single day. I know they’ll be there for me when I need them to be. Just as I will do the same. It’s how we’ve always been. We’re quite strong that way.
I think we set an example of independence within a relationship, by not defining ourselves by the other person in our lives. I am complete without them, as they are without me. We can be together or apart, and be happy either way. Just a different style of happiness, is all. This is something we both accept, and embrace.
We accept our relationship, embrace our individuality, and know we are not one and the same. We do not need to lean against one another to remain standing on our own two feet.
The perfect relationship? One you do not need, but one you absolutely desire.
Yes, I am one happy girl.