As life hands every single person obstacles in life some hard and some easy it is up to us a people to make the best out of each situation. While some people choose to grow stronger through the trials of their lives others choose what they feel at the time as the easy solution: suicide.
Statics show that 32,439 suicides are committed yearly in the United States making that 88.6 daily. Suicide ends the pain for the person committing the suicide but what are the after effects? Loved ones left behind are the ones who are left dealing with the pain and devastation that suicide leaves behind. As I talked with one woman about her dealings of suicide with in her family she let me in on her feelings and the chain of events that took place.
Sara asked me to change her name to protect her privacy while she explained to me how after the pain and emotional roller coaster she went through after her boyfriend committed suicide leaving her to raise an infant alone. Sara told her story through a lot of pain, tears and some laughter. Sara made one comment that left an impact with me that startled me and made me think about people I knew myself, Sara had said to me “Some of the strongest people turn out to be the weakest.” When I asked Sara about this she explain that her boyfriend had hidden his depression well and went about life on a day by day situation and even she who was close to him living with him and raising there child together never realized that her boyfriend could be experiencing such a depression that would make him want to take his own life.
She talked of times when he would be perfectly fine playing with their child talking about the future and making plans. Sara admitted to the fact her boyfriend was moody at times but figured mostly it was due to his work. Sara stating “I had asked him at times if anything was wrong but he would always smile and kiss me and tell me nothing.” she went on to say “I have so many regrets looking back and I wish I would have pushed the situation and made him talk to me. I don’t know how I missed things. I don’t understand why he didn’t open up to me.” Sara stopped here she was choked up and needed a glass of water before she continued. I watched Sara’s face contort with the pain of memories that came flooding back to her.
As Sara went and got herself a glass of water I took the time to look over the pictures she had spread out for me to look at. I saw a happy smiling family I couldn’t tell by any of the pictures spread out that there was a depression deeply seeded in any of the people in the photos. Everything looked the way it should so what did someone miss that was so hard that Sara’s boyfriend took his life?
Sara was too choked up reliving her past and the lost of the man she always figured would be a part of her life and we could not continue the interview. I have kept in touch with Sara to make sure she is doing fine but I have learned through out this time that suicide is not something of a topic that is best brought up to the people who are left behind to pick up the pieces and go on with life.
Depression disorders affect 18.8 million American adults in the US. These statistics are of adults over the age of 18 in a given year. This includes all major forums of depression, from major depressive disorder, dysthymic disorder and bipolar disorder.