Adoption is the number one recommendation from pro lifers to pregnant teenagers. Yet there is a continuing fight from pro choicers that adoption is never a guarantee for a good life for that child and they may be abused and neglected. If you believed that argument you might think that the foster care system and families looking to adopt are absolutely horrible. What are the chances of finding a good family? That kind of thinking just further confirms a need for abortion. Or does it? Is it even a valid argument? I don’t believe it is.
When asking whether or not adoption is a safe option for any age child, here is where you’ll find your answer. 1% out of hundreds of thousands of adoptions is extremely low. And when you compare that to the general populace of child abuse and neglect, adoption is one of the safest options out there. The media is really to blame for this idea that children are not safe in foster care and adoptive homes. It’s really easy for foster and adoptive parents to get blamed for a child’s behavior. This group sums it up: The kids in the foster care system and those who have been adopted are not behaving badly due to poor treatment. They were abused. They were neglected. These are the families who took them in to care for them and hopefully reverse the damage that was done before. They deserve praise, not the rhetorical statements that come from stereotypical ideas about the system.
On top of that, the amount of single adult’s adoption is on the rise. This study shows that almost 1/3 of all adoptive parents are single and move towards adopting special needs and older children. If this trend keeps going and more and more single adults keep adopting in this same manner, it would almost completely rule out any need for abortion. So, while some people have abortions simply because their child is handicapped and they don’t want to take the time to care for that type of a person, there are families and single people who will sacrifice anything and everything to do it. One example of families willing to adopt special needs is this family. They have sacrificed a lot to care for other people’s children as their own. As you can see, they have nothing but love for these children and work hard out of love for them.
There is a myth that people only adopt certain children and that children are only adapted out to certain parents. This myth has plagued our society into thinking that a single woman who is pregnant has only one out: abortion. Many adoption sites will refute that myth and say that children don’t need perfect parents, they just need parents who love them and will care for them. There are restrictions, however. Especially when it comes to newborns. The adoption agencies in the United States may require one parent to stay at home for the first six months to ease the transition for the child. There are waiting periods to determine a good match, what you can financially handle. You don’t have to be married, rich and own your own home, though. They just want stability and opportunity for the child to be part of a family. Here’s how many kids find families to love them.
This study confirms great numbers of kids who are well taken care of in the foster care system and in adoptive families. As of September 2005, there were 513,000 kids in foster care. Their stays were short, compared to what many people feel are lengthy stays in foster care and the goals for most kids were to place them back in the home with their biological parents. One thing people love to use against the option of adoption is that most kids are of a race that no one wants and that most kids in foster care are not white and therefore won’t be adopted. Those people might be shocked to know that white kids made up 41% of the foster care system. That is a huge number. Almost half of all kids in the foster care system were not minorities. And of the kids who left foster care that year, 51% were minorities. That should tell us something. That should tell us that how kids get taken care of in the system is not dependent on the color of their skin.
and this same study rebutes the race claim further by the statistics that most kids that did get adopted from foster care were minorities and many were older kids. The survey here states that many adoptions are not reported, yet most adopted kids were adopted by their foster parents. It’s amazing that there is a stigma put on the foster care system and yet these statistics completely blow those out of the water.
Another issue I keep hearing is who is going to pay for those kids to be taken care of? Well, notice how many of those kids receive an adoption subsidy? It’s not a small number. Compare that with the money taken in for abortion and just think about how many more kids could go to loving families that would otherwise not be able to afford the adoption process.
One of the pro choice’s largest arguments against pro lifers is that if you outlaw abortion, there would be close to one million children in foster care. However, they don’t take into account all the mother’s that might change their minds after their child is born and decide to keep it and they don’t take the study above into account. There is a lot of help out there for single and poor mothers and fathers. Food stamps, housing assistance, daycare assistance, clothing donations, thrift stores full of baby stuff, medical coupons, etc. Those are the things our taxes go towards. If you choose to adopt your child out, there are many agencies that have families that are willing to pay for all your expenses throughout your pregnancy. That pretty much makes that argument null and void. However, that false argument is just played on by the abortion industry itself. Planned Parenthood receives most of their funds through public support. Yet, how many adoption referrals to they do? Try none. They only have one adoption agency listed on their local San Antonio site and when I clicked for the page, it was non existent. In their annual report for 2005, Planned Parenthood doesn’t even mention adoption referrals being one of the services they provided that year.
Let’s put two and two together here. The abortion industry has little adoption referrals and one agency they work with. Of course, to the mothers coming into that clinic, it looks hopeless for their children. The call of “choice” for women is hypocritical at its best and utterly destructive at its worse in those clinics. Information from Planned Parenthood Taxes for 2005 shows they spent $583,389 in one year to lobby the public and legislators. The average incomes for some of the heads of Planned Parenthood were $216,444. The board of directors gets reimbursed for travel expenses. Why is that money not being spent on helping women who aren’t sure about abortion finding a place to adopt their child out? With the kind of money they receive in donations alone, it would not just be plausible, but extremely feasible, that they could do more adoption referrals and help pay for health care of the pregnant mother.
Crisis Pregnancy Clinics have many more adoption agencies they work with. They offer all information for all choices for pregnant women. While Planned Parenthood is on the attack with these clinics, remember Planned Parenthood still only offers a 0% adoption referral rate. What does that say about their advocacy of “choice” for women? This fact should enrage pro choice groups everywhere. More information from their tax return states what their mission is. Read it. Learn it. Because it only shows the following hypocrisy. That first statement about “health-care services” doesn’t seem to have anything to do with adoption, does it? Adoption is not a health service. Adoption can be part of education, but is not mentioned as part of their educational plan. The “research and advancement of technology” can’t be part of adoption referrals, as it doesn’t take research or technology to accomplish a simple phone call to an adoption agency. One critical question the pro choice group needs to ask of Planned Parenthood is: Why is adoption not mentioned in their mission statement? If it’s not part of their mission, how are they going to implement it? Well, again a 0% referral rate pretty much speaks for itself.
While I think adoption and parenting really should be the first thing on every pregnant woman’s mind, there are things I don’t agree with within the adoption agencies. One is how American citizens seem to be going overseas more and more to adopt. I do not agree with adopting children outside of the US. That may seem cold hearted, but I have my reasons. We are citizens of the United States and the needy in our country should always come first. Just go and look up your state’s adoption statistics for one year. Multiply that number by fifty. Now look at these statistics gathered from the US Department of States and then subtract those numbers from how many kids need homes here and see why I think its important US adoptions come first. Of course, there will always be a need to adopt and a desire to adopt. But, if certain things were to change, the number of kids needing a home would be small. Should that small number be a reason not to support American adoptions? No. And it never will be. Exploiting that small number will only and always be a way to advocate abortion as the best option.
My personal call is for Planned Parenthood to step up to the plate and advocate real “choice” for pregnant women. Hire an adoption referral agent and counselor. Hire a single parent and parenting counselor. Try working with the Crisis Pregnancy Clinics, instead of against them. That is offering a true choice. But, having low adoption referral rates, spending a ton of money to advocate the “right” for women to have abortion and the “choice” for women to have abortion, is not true advocating of choice. Adoption is a beautiful thing and should be offered more consideration than a hard to find website. The adoption option should always be given the same opportunity as abortion. But, until it is, I at least will never refer to Planned Parenthood as an advocate for true choice.