Rejection is something that no one wants to experience. It’s painful and often heart breaking, but it is something we all go through. So how do we handle rejection? How can a person overcome rejection and use the experience to better themselves? This article will answer those questions and the next time you face rejection you will be able to overcome it.
Rejection has many races, it doesn’t matter if you feel rejected because you didn’t get the job you were hoping for, or, because you didn’t get the date you were dreaming about, or anything in between, rejection still hurts. Rejection hurts our egos, and makes us question our self worth, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are some ways to handle rejection.
1 Don’t take rejection personally. Sometimes we get rejected simply because our timing is wrong. You can’t get the job if the company is not hiring. Sometimes rejection has nothing to do with you. So don’t second guess yourself or think that no one likes you.
2 Change your expectations. No matter what you do, you will not be able to make everyone happy all the time. You have to stop expecting everyone to accept you, it is just unrealistic.
3 Put things in perspective. Sometimes we are rejected while there are other people around, and this makes it feel like everyone took notice. You may feel like everyone is talking about you. The fact is, you getting rejected didn’t mean anything to any one but you.
4 Stay positive. You maybe thinking “yeah right,” but I am serious. Being positive after being rejected, may be hard but sometimes rejection is a blessing in disguise. It may provide the opportunity for something bigger and better to happen.
5 Listen carefully to why you were rejected. You need to pay attention to the reasons you were rejected so you will know what to fix for the next time. If for instance, you are rejected when applying for a job, ask if they could tell you why you didn’t get the position. Maybe you applied at the wrong time and should come back in a few months, or maybe you simply forgot to fill out a portion of the application. No matter what the reason, you will have that information for the next time.
6 Engage in positive self talk. Think of all the things you are good at. Encourage yourself by telling yourself that you’ll do better next time. Being negative will only hurt you and could lead to over eating, drinking or retail therapy. You want to make sure you do not take part in these activities to make yourself feel better after rejection.
7 Become confident in yourself. People will like you for who you are. You don’t have to be fake, or phony to be accepted. You are unique and interesting.
8 Remember that everyone faces rejection. There are times that our services are needed and times when we get rejected. Realizing that everyone gets rejected is an important step in learning from rejection.
9 Don’t give up. You’ve heard the old saying, ” try and try again,” you have to keep trying until you succeed.
Rejection occurs in different aspects of our lives but usually makes us all feel the same. Some of the common messages that rejection conveys are:
1 You have something wrong with you.
2 No one likes you.
3 You will never become any better than you are now.
4 You do no belong.
5 You did something wrong.
6 You are not one of the group.
Rejection can have long lasting effects if you don’t take control and over come it. To avoid internalizing rejection, you have to make the choice to face your fears. You should also share your experience with rejection, even if you feel ashamed of it. By doing this, you will reduce your feelings of loneliness. Make the choice to focus on your positive qualities and you will be unaffected by rejection.
How to Handle Rejection
How to Handle Rejection