At times there is always that one kid that won’t leave your yard when they are told to do so. Their comment is usually, “I am going to tell my Dad”
“Fine! You go tell your Dad and I am going to tell your Dad that you won’t leave my yard, go home!”
“My Dad could beat you up.”
If you are a male, as I have heard other males say, “Then if your Dad thinks he is man enough then tell him to come on down here and beat me up.”
If you are the mother or another child you will hear, “My dad will beat up your Dad, or your husband.”
Either way, we now have a kid that is now strutting home with the information as ” Dad, there is this guy that lives down the street and he hollered at me as I walked by his house to stay off the sidewalk. I told him not to be so mean and he told me to tell you that if you had a problem that he could beat you up.”
Soon follows is the kid that is in lead of the father to the other father’s house and confrontations are made. Some Dads settle the problem fairly quickly, but others actually engage into the actual act of a fight.
Why do children do this?
I have often wondered this question numerous amounts of times, and why these Dads are drawn into the who’s badder and bigger game.
Authority and testosterone are our biggest culprits in the bigger badder game.
Every Dad wants authority proved. Each Dad wants their son to think that in any necessary scene that he will protect his son and hold his own as well.
Mothers for years have installed a sense of fear in the minds of young boys, “Wait until your father gets home.”
Authority and fear.
The vast majority of these boys learn that Dad will take care of any back talking, fear injected reasons, as well as problems that exist in his life.
Is this the mother’s fault? Not necessarily. Yet, mothers need to install a sense of authority with their children as well. Dad can not solve each problem and we as parents need to stop and think was our child innocently walking by? What are my child’s true sense of character.
I have been presented with this situation.
My son came home from school and was very angry. I asked him what was wrong? He informed me in tears that his Dad was going to beat up Dad. I said no I don’t think so. Yes, he is going to this boy on the bus doesn’t like me and he said that his Dad was going to beat up my Dad.
I told him we would talk to his Dad.
The Dad lived across the street and when we walked over to discuss the matter, luckily, he had the same attitude that we need to get the full information first.
When it came down to it, the boys were comparing their Dads. My Dad has big muscles, he is huge. Well my Dad is taller then your Dad. The best way to find out is I bet my Dad can beat up your Dad.
Regardless, we still will always have the problem of stereo typing of the gender in men. There will always be someone bigger and badder and some men are always going to search for that bigger and badder for the challenge.