When planning a wedding, choosing a bridesmaid can help make the wedding day special. But when choosing bridesmaids, would it be wise to ask one of your pregnant friends to be your bridesmaid?
When deciding on the best course of action, you will need to consider timing. If your wedding is 7 months down the road and your friend has just announced that she is 6 weeks pregnant, the timing will not be ideal. Even if she is small and petite right now, her body will change and grow very quickly to accommodate the growing baby. This will make it very difficult when choosing bridesmaid’s dresses and then scheduling in fittings. Her dress will either need to be altered several times or an appropriate maternity dress will have to be found early on that will fit well around your friend’s growing figure. Even if you go ahead and allow a pregnant friend to be your bridesmaid and you find the perfect maternity bridesmaid’s dress, can you be sure that the timing of the wedding will not coincide with the approaching birth?
It may sound selfish to even consider this, but on your wedding day, you will want to be the focal point as you walk down the aisle, rather than your glowingly pregnant friend. Pregnancy is a wonderful time for the expectant mother and her family, but it can detract attention away from the bride if there is a visibly pregnant bridesmaid in the wedding party.
Although pregnancy is perfectly natural, expectant mothers are not always in the best of health. A pregnant bridesmaid will feel obligated to put the wedding day ahead of any discomfort, morning sickness or any other pregnancy related ailments she may be experiencing just so she does not feel as if she is spoiling the wedding preparations. Pregnancy can make it harder for the bridesmaid to let the bride know that she cannot make it to the wedding rehearsal because she is suffering from morning sickness or if she has a doctor’s appointment that clashes with the wedding plans. She will likely feel guilty and keep quiet about any problems she is having.
In conclusion, you must ultimately decide for yourself whether it would be wise to ask a pregnant friend to be your bridesmaid. Look closely at your own circumstances and your friend’s personal circumstances before you make a final decision. It may be possible to fit your friend’s pregnancy around your wedding plans so that she can still be your bridesmaid.