Anyone who says telling the truth in all circumstances is easy should be declared a liar. There are some truths that some people cannot handle, such as the woman who foolishly asks her husband if the pants she is wearing makes her butt look too big. That is a no win question.
Another no win is when you are describing the inner workings or secrets of a religious group. Many will take aim and consider you from the devil if you say negative things about religious leaders. Some of them are your friends who will hate you for exposing the truth. They will come at you with Scriptures about “not touching God’s anointed” or call you divisive.
I have been faced with this dilemma lately. Part of it has been from my sense of justice, and part of it has been feeling like there have been so many things that have been swept under the rug, that you could run an 18-wheeler through it.
Over the past 24 years, I have been in one of the most diverse Christian groups that I know of. It is lively and constantly moving forward. I have sat in the meetings of Oral Roberts, Roberts Liardon, and others. They were great times.
However, in recent years there has been a dissatisfaction that has come about because of the hypocrisy at the expense of people. So, do I continue in my silence to keep the peace or do I expose the truth?
Now of course you don’t say things for the sake of hurting people, that would be wrong, but to correct errors that have gone unchecked for far too long.
Each article I have written that exposed just pieces seemed to tear me apart. Probably because I know that there are some who just spend their life looking for fault in religion or certain religious leaders. I know, I have been to the Websites, and I think they spend way to much time on people they claim not to care one iota about. In a way, it is sort of stupid to spend you whole life researching and writing about people you hate. It is a monumental waste of time.
Back to my issue, I know that some people hold to the notion that you are just to pray for change, but you are never supposed to speak against or correct spiritual leaders. I hold a different view. No, you should not run up at every little thing, but there are times when action is required.
When Roberts Liardon was found to have been having a homosexual affair with a youth pastor, and gave himself his own punishment, the leaders of the Church needed to speak up.
The problem was that his ministry was based on him; without him there would be no Roberts Liardon ministry. The problem is that he had this happen before and the leaders just let him go on. In fact, one might wonder if that is why he rushed off to California. Let’s just say that his fame among the Christian sect set him apart from true correction; correction that would have been given to any unknown person.
In fact, that is the major truth I have learned over the last 24 years. There is a correction for the famous that involves either a cover-up or complete abandonment. Further, the type of sin is the key factor in their “forgiveness.” If it was homosexual in nature then you are forever banned from that group. A group that claims people can be free of it, but do not allow God the opportunity before they cut ties with the individuals.
If you divorce your wife, they will let you back in rather quickly. TBN had no down time for Clarence McClendon who divorced his wife and married someone else within a week. He was a ratings getter, so who cared about the woman who did not want the divorce.
In an interview with Charisma, Tammera McClendon, the ex-wife said Clarence McClendon wanted out of the marriage for years. Tammera said, “I didn’t want a divorce, when I finally said yes to Clarence, he asked me to file because it would look bad if he divorced me–which could hurt his ministry.”
Tammera also said that her McClendon told her that God had revealed to him who he was supposed to marry. She said she then asked him: “How could God show you another woman when you already have a wife?”
It would seem that McClendon wanted to fulfill the lust of the flesh and tried to get God to approve of it.
Another great example of the Church dismissing the behavior of its leaders was the divorce of Charles Stanley, well-known Southern Baptist pastor and former president of the SBC. When the news was announced to the First Baptist Church of Atlanta, the newly divorced pastor received a standing ovation from the congregation.
In each case, the issue was that without the person there was no ministry. It was ministry built on personality and not on Christ. It may not have been these mens fault, but they started to believe their own press.
They dismissed their own sin while destroying others for their sin. Sort of reminds you of Dimsdale in “The Scarlet Letter.”
So, how do you expose the truth to people that have exchanged the truth for a lie, and condone the misbehavior of their own leaders?
Even so, it hurts to expose what the Church has refused to correct. It is no secret that Ted Haggard would never have been dealt with had he not be exposed by a male prostitute in a national way. He was too high on the food chain to let come crashing down willingly.
The Church is coming to a crossroads and people are going to have to decide if they want to go with the flow against God or take the narrow road. To take the narrow road means submitting to the truth and living by it, not closing your eyes and ears.
It means that people have to stop using God as the scapegoat for not standing up for what’s right.
You know, the best piece of advice I got was from Donald Trump and it applies to all aspects of life. It was to learn when to walk away.
It may be time to walk away when you are afraid to tell the truth; or, when you are willing to throw away the truth in order to keep the peace.