Every generation has its own catch words and phrases. Today’s teens are no different. The variety of cultures and subcultures makes understanding teen coded language more difficult than ever. As an informed parent, it is your job to know what is going on in your teen’s life. By nature teens are secretive. You are the adult, and it is your job to learn to understand their language and lifestyle. Only then can you help them make positive decisions to improve their life.
They don’t expect you to speak their language. You’ll get ridiculed if you try. You aren’t learning their language to speak it. You are learning their language to help make you a better parent, and give you greater understanding into your teenager’s world.
The first article will deal with sex related words. This list is by no means exhaustive. The best way to learn your teen’s lingo is to listen. Pay attention to where your teenager is, who they are with, and what they are doing.
This list will also help you understand the message and influence of some contemporary teen music. At least one school of thought believes that the inclusion of lyrics such as these encourage teen sex.
You read the list and come to your own conclusions.
Teen Vocabulary: Sex Related Words
ba dink-a-dink – usually used in sexual terms referring to small rear-end
ba dunk-a-dunk, onion – usually used in sexual terms referring to large rear-end
baggin, Game, sweatin’, mack , spittin’ game – picking up someone of the alternate sex
bang – party where promiscuous girls may be present; act of having sex; beat up
bay – short for “baby” as term of endearment
bootycall – phone call to arrange a sexual liaison
candy, piece, choppin’, get our G on, hit it, hookin’ up, making cookies, pump it up, smash, stickin it, tap, tap that, twist, bone- sex
check up on it – press up against someone sexually usually while dancing
dirty – someone with STD
Freak – male or female who gets around; verb – to copulate
Give up the gold – giving up virginity before its time
Goodies – anything about the opposite sex that turns you on
High-Five – H.I.V.
Ho-monga Jigga, man-ho, playa, gigolo, pretty boy – guy who keeps more than one girl
Hoochie – promiscuous female
Hoovering – abortion
Jiggy, phat, shawty, squirrel, bird, chassy – hot, attractive, sexy girl
Jump off – sex partner
Milkshake – female’s sexual appeal or discharge
outercourse – oral sex
Prostitots – little girls who wear tight fitting jeans and short shirts
R. Kelly – to have sex with younger girls
rainbow parties – oral sex parties
Scam – act like you like someone just for a sexual favor
Skank, skeeza – more than hoochie, more than hoochie mama, promiscuous and nasty
tossing salad – oral or anal sex
Trick – sexually active female
Triflin – cheat on boyfriend or girlfriend
Bear in mind, this list is not extensive. The vocabulary of today’s youth is ever changing. Nothing will replace communicating with your teenager yourself. Ask about things you don’t understand, and let your teenager know that you expect honest answers.
Don’t jump to conclusions if you hear your teenager using terms that make you uncomfortable. The words may have different meanings within different teenage cultures. The key is to use this list as a bridge to begin building communication with your teenager.
Teen-Speak, What You’r Teen Realy Means – Series 2 will deal primarily with drug related terms being used today.
Lynch, Fred. “Slang Dictionary.” The Source for Youth Ministry. 1999-2007.
Harpo Productions, “Do You Know What Your Child is Really Doing.” http://www.oprah.com/relationships/relationships_content.jhtml?