Blind dates are stressful. You don’t know the person you are going to be going out with, and in fact you’ve never even seen them. Being set up on this date could be the best or worst dating experience you’ve ever had. Here are some tips for blind date survival.
Pick a place.
First, you have to establish where you are going. A restaurant is the most obvious choice because it provides about an hour of face-to-face time where you can sit down and really talk with someone. You might also take a walk in the park or window shop. Window shopping is nice because it will help you to learn about your date’s interests. Watching a movie isn’t recommended, because you’ll both be quiet and not getting to know each other. Going to a party is definitely out because you’ll be talking to other people.
This is always important. Your date cannot really get to know you if you aren’t really being yourself. Relax, and let your date know you for who you really are.
Eliminate romantic pressure.
Have the date in the morning if possible. No one is feeling sexy over breakfast, and no one will expect anything romantic after the date. And, a date over morning light will help you to really check out your date. Candlelight is flattering to everyone, and can really hide flaws.
Have a plan B.
Eliminating romantic pressure isn’t the only reason breakfast is a good blind date activity. Why? Because it is early in the day, it can give you an excellent excuse to leave promptly after the meal if things aren’t going well. You can always tell your date that you made other plans with friends (“I promised my friend I’d help here clean her garage at 9 o’clock”) or that you have an appointment (“I’d love to go window shopping with you after breakfast, but I’m having my teeth cleaned and this was the only day my dentist had available this week.”
Honesty is the best policy.
When it comes to blind dates, you always want to have a reason to break the date early if it is going miserably and you have nothing in common with your date. But of course, you don’t have to lie. If things really aren’t going well, honesty really is the best policy. If you must end the date early, remember to be kind and tactful.
Don’t give out your address yet.
Wherever you decide to go, it is best to meet at a public place. Never let your date pick you up at home. This is still a stranger after all. Just because the friend or family member who set you up on the date knows this person, you still don’t. There is no need to risk personal safety.
Dress to impress.
As with any date, look your best. Being on a blind date doesn’t mean you should take any less care of your appearance than if you were on a regular date. You only get one chance at a first impression.
Have an open mind.
Be optimistic and look forward to the date. He or she could be the one! My husband and I met through mutual friends. We weren’t on a blind date, we just happened to both be at the same gathering that our mutual friends had set up with a bunch of people. When my husband to be walked into the room, it was love at first sight and I prayed he was single. He was, and the rest is history.
Don’t bring others along with you.
This is a blind date, not a double date. It should be fun to get to know another person and in order to do that, you should be devoting all your attention to them. Another reason to not bring someone else along is you don’t need to be influenced by the opinions of others. If you brought a friend along who didn’t like your date but you do, it will make you question being with the date. Lastly, it could backfire on you. What if your date liked your friend instead?
Whether or not the date was a success, remember to thank your date for meeting you and also thank the person who set you up on the date. The person who arranged it was thinking of you after all, and wanted to make you happy.