Fear of introducing yourself is common among men who were raised in the old school. You might be able to simply say “hello” to someone but when you meet them things become a little more difficult. Since you have an initial interest in them the whole platform of assumptions associated with potential friendship changes. After all you are genuine person.
Have you ever found yourself in a club where by the end of the night you haven’t introduced yourself to anyone? When you look around you find that all the ladies are either in a group of their friends or otherwise taking to other men. This gets frustrating as you look around for the opportune time to say “hello” but that time never materializes.
You might just keep waiting indefinitely because clubs can be “meat markets” or “meet markets”. Few of these women will ever just be sitting there alone hoping that a guy like you will come up and talk to them. Therefore, some how or some way you are going to have to put your foot out there and introduce yourself. You must handle your fear.
The biggest problem we face in dating is rejection. We don’t like to be told we are not up to another person’s standards. When we are rejected we may feel embarrassed, unworthy and hurt. Sometimes this hurt turns into anger and we lash back verbally creating a bigger scene than originally thought.
What if the feelings of rejection were diminished? Would you start conversations more often? If you say “hello” and try and start a friendship with someone and they reject you it isn’t personal. They can’t reject someone they don’t know. Furthermore, their failure to recognize that new friendships are possible is a weakness on their part. They are limiting themselves to a preconceived notion of their ideal partner. In many cases this notion will lead to many years of sorrow as they chase the wrong guys up the tree only to be dumped, rejected and cheated on.
You can diminish the sting associated with a rejection by simply smiling, saying “I’m sorry to hear that” and walk away. The reaction produced in the female is not immediate but as you begin to walk away they start thinking “what was that about”. They were expected a cuss word, a dirty look or some other type of knee-jerk response.
You walked away holding your integrity, treating them politely and also showing them that you are a “man”. Soon the thought that you are their superior enters their mind. After all you did show that you had confidence and can handle difficult situations with ease. Their rejection of you became a rejection of them without all the fuss.