It is certainly no secret that many couples struggle with complications associated with intimacy and sex, often after they are well into a committed relationship. Because women associate emotional and intellectual thoughts with their sex drive, it is quite common for a woman to find she is not as easily aroused by her partner.
For men, on the other hand, sex drive and intimacy often comes as a physical response and can easily arise without any emotional or intellectual thoughts or feelings tied to the act of intercourse.
Compounded by these biological differences, many couples find they struggle with stress, both in the home and out of the home, which ultimately leads to even more conflicts in terms of intimacy and sexual relationships.
So, how does a meeting of these two minds occur? While relationship magazines, relationship books and even relationship experts all agree the bond of intimacy is a two-way street, many fail to coach each individual in their own realm of responsibility.
First, because a woman is often not aroused until intimacy has begun, a man must be mindful of the way in which to capture the attention of the woman he loves. Creating intimacy and having sex does not simply start when you land in the bedroom. Conversely, a woman should reach out to her partner, in other intimate ways, in order to strengthen the arousal and interest.
Throughout the day, there are activities that both partners can do to stimulate the intimacy in the relationship which may, ultimately, lead to intercourse in the evening. In same cases, however, it will not. But, using day time intimacy techniques, couples can create a stronger bond and connection with each other. For example, to around the attention of your partner, simply try stroking their hair and kissing the forehead for just a few seconds. This quick moment of physical connection can lead to a greater bond psychologically.
Stopping for a one-minute hug, two times a day, is also important for both partners. While the hug can certainly be longer than this, hugging your partner, without talking or engaging in any other activity, can provide for a unique bonding experience. Sometimes our bodies can communicate what words will never be able to express.
Engaging in activities together is also a great way to strengthen intimacy. Rock climbing, cooking classes, attending a sporting event and even dance lessons are all great ways to boost your intellectual base, creating a memorable and bonding experience which, ultimately, will lead to a greater degree of intimacy, and alleviate stress, by the time you land in the bedroom in the evening.
The key to successful relationships, with positive energy associated with sex, lies in the ability of the couple to create bonding experiences outside of the bedroom. When we continually work outside of the bedroom to create bonding experiences, it is that bonding that brings us together when we lay our head on the pillow at night.