Rejection in any form is not easy. People reject us and we often feel angry, hurt and less worthy. Who do they think they are anyways? She feels that she is so much better than me! Our egos are hurt and we retreat to lick our wounds. What we don’t understand is how someone can be so rude to use for being polite to them.
The problem is that people aren’t as nice when it comes to rejecting someone anymore. With sweaty palms we walk up to a lady and say “Excuse me miss, I was sitting over there and was having a cup of coffee. Do you think you would consider joining me?” You would expect a comment such as “Sure…I will be over in a minute” or “Sorry, sir but I do not know you very well” or you might even expect “Sorry I am actually leaving in a minute or two”.
What you don’t expect is “I got a boyfriend so don’t bother me” or “Yaaa right! Is that a big enough hint for you?” as they mumble under their breath “looser”. This type of response is certainly unwarranted and very abrasive at best. Our immediate response is embarrassment and then anger. We walk away with our egos smashed on the cement before us.
When this happens enough we may consider not trying to talk to people of the opposite sex for awhile. We might just give up and tell ourselves “it isn’t worth the aggravation”. We then spend more time with our male friends or home watching television fearful of venturing on the sacred ground of mating.
Much of this pain comes from our perspective on dating and our own self-esteem. Assuming that you have high self-esteem, feel secure about who you are and were confident in your worthiness you might not think the situation was that bad. You may even consider it somewhat comical.
Think of a crazy person who hasn’t taken their medication. They might just yell irrational emotional responses into the air. When you asked the lady out, she snapped back at you as though she was in some way superior to you. Her response was not warranted by the question and she could have found another way to express her disinterest. However she chose the rude way.
There is a good reason why she chose to be rude instead of polite. It is highly possible that she has been asked out by just about every man within 10 square blocks. They are not interested in her (just like you) they are interested in her body and taking advantage of it if they can. Her relationships have probably been pretty poor because if they were positive for her she might be more secure in her behavior.
She also rejected you without knowing you. That means she is not open to a relationship no matter who the person is. If you do not fit her standards there is a good possibility the relationship wouldn’t go anywhere anyways. Beside her standards might be rude, well dressed men, who like to take advantage of her. It doesn’t take long to figure out that she has also been rejected once the other party has gotten what they want from her. That puts a pretty bad taste in her mouth.