Attachment parenting is a parenting style in which the parent has prolonged periods of close contact with the child as an infant. Attachment parenting creates, enforces and continues a lifelong bond between parent and child. Attachment parenting requires a great deal of devotion, but it is a parenting method that helps the child feel secure, and loved, which encourages self esteem and confidence which will benefit the child throughout life as he makes his way in the world. Below are tips on how to use attachment parenting.
As soon as the baby is born you should hold him on your chest, and continue to hold him. This is the time when the parent will harvest his parenting skills, and will learn how to be sensitive to the child. During this time the child will be very young, but will be able to recognize the parent through smell, and voice. It is important for the parent to bond with the child right after birth.
Breastfeeding is a personal choice but should be done if possible. Breastfeeding calls for the time of ultimate bonding; it brings parent and child together as one. Fathers can bond through bottle feeding. Young infants will find solace, protection, comfort, and love, upon the soft warm skin of their loving mother. As the child gets a bit older he will be able to focus his eyes on you, and that moment when the child stares back into your eyes is so precious, the child is able to see who is nurturing him, and that face will remain an essential image in his mind.
Breastfeeding close and on demand- breastfeeding on demand is when you breastfeed the baby whenever he cries to be fed, and it can be stressful to have to wake up numerous times in the middle of the night to breastfeed your crying baby, so a good way to breastfeed without having to get up, is to place your baby on your chest to breastfeed, while you lay on your back, or you laying down sideways, and letting the baby nurse, this is the way mothers with cesarean scars lay. These positions can be dangerous for your baby, if you fall asleep and accidentally roll over on and suffocate the child, or the child suffocates by having his head accidentally turned in a way that prohibits breathing, so these positions should be used consciously or extremely carefully, if you are tired.
Constant holding of the baby, in addition to physically holding the baby you can purchase a baby sling which will allow the baby to be secured safely onto your chest while you move around the house or take a walk outside. The baby can be held all throughout the day, using a combination of physically holding the baby and placing the aby in a sling on your chest, (shoulder.)
Place the baby’s crib nearby- This will allow you to reach the baby quickly if he cries, it is best to respond to a baby’s cries. Crying is the only way for a baby to communicate, and it should not be ignored, when you pick up your crying baby you are showing him that you are there for him, to take care of him and, that he can trust you, and depend on you for all of his needs. Some parents place their baby in the beds with them, and others place the crib near by. Having the baby’s crib nearby reduces anxiety in having to separate from you.
As the baby gets older you want to spend one on one quality time. Attachment parenting will allow you to know your child, which will enable you to effectively parent without much hassle, such as tantrums, and misconstrued communication. You will know your child better than anyone, and you will be able to keep her content, because you know what she needs, and your child will love you for this.