I am not a parent. I do not plan to have children. I’ll be completely honest for a change. I don’t think someone who is so dependent upon others should have a pet gold fish let a lone develop a zygote. These are simply answers that I have heard parroted over the years as I have been going through my experience as a person with a physical disability. The first thing to remember about raising a handicapped child it to try to strive for independence for the kid, this is very key.
The first thing a school is going to ask you is where do you see yourself and your child in five years? Well, quite frankly I never knew how to answer this one once I got older and they started asking me more questions about my future/ I would always things like well, most people don’t have that one figured out either. I did this because I take life one day at a time and I’m never sure where it is/was going to lead me.
They never did like that answer because for some reason educational bureaucrats want you to have your whole life mapped out at the end of the first grade at the very least. Now I’m a liberal guy in the sense that I don’t believe that having a government funded job is a bad thing, but when I use the term bureaucrat I’m referring to a paper shuffler, not someone who is competent. I’m referring to the kind of nitwit who just cashes a check.
Always try to accommodate transportation needs for your child so they can hang out with their friends, go to a civic engagement or have that all important first date. The parents out there should be working hard on this one because the sooner they get married the sooner you get them out of the house. Do not try and force social situations upon your child. Let the whole thing come naturally. This is 2007 (thank God) and everyone is generally very accepting. In that same vain, however please do not be too politically correct about your child’s disability.
Let them crack jokes about it if they want to and it makes them feel better if even for only a moment. A lot of people get offended by the use of the word “cripple” I typically do not unless the person who uses it is already someone I don’t see eye to eye with. The only time I ever get offended is when discussing politics and a conservative compares my support for embryonic stem cell research to the kind of eugenics that the Third Reich practiced.
Besides this is 2007 as I said above and the only people who get offended by the word cripple are those people who just adored that play “The Glass Menagerie” by Tennessee Williams and I think that work is nothing like real life as long as you keep your mind in a positive state. Make sure your child picks their OWN profession. Often times the school will try and pawn you off into one genre that you don’t want to go into. If I would have told them I wanted to be a writer, political consultant or a basketball coach growing up they would have said that is absurd.
The main thing to remember is to keep your own head, make your own choices because many people will try and shift responsibility onto you as the parent. Schools may try and not provide a laptop or whatever materials/assistance your child needs. I guess that’s why they hire lawyers ehh? To find their way around those pesky disability rights laws. Another thing is always remember that you are protected by the law and the right to petition your government, but don’t abuse these privileges because all organizations/people are capable of making errors.