It is almost Thanksgiving and your new girlfriend or boyfriend wants you to come home with them for Thanksgiving. You however, are not sure you are ready to meet their parents just yet. Saying no can cause hurt or upset. It can even cause a premature breakup. Here are some tips you can use to get out of a Thanksgiving invite while saving face.
You can lie: If you do not want to go home with your new boy/girlfriend for Thanksgiving you can make up a lie that will help you weasel out if it. You can tell them that you have previous plans that you cannot break like a trip to Kalamazoo to visit your cousins sick kid. You can say that your job is not giving you the time off, so you will not be able to get away. You can feign and injury or illness.
You can blame your parents: If you do not want to go home with your new boy/girlfriend for Thanksgiving, you can blame your parents. You can tell them that you really miss your parents but want to spend the time with them… alone. You can say your parents made you promise last year that you would spend a quiet this thanksgiving with them. You can tell them that your mother will cry if you do not go home to them.
You can have a fight and make up later: If they are really pushing you to come home with them for thanksgiving and you are just not feeling up to it yet, you can always start a petty argument just in time for the trip. This will allow you to weasel your way out of going home with them, and if you want, you can make up with them later. Of course, this is passive aggressive behavior, which is never fun for the other person.
Of course, if you are able to get out of visiting with your boy/girlfriends house for Thanksgiving, they decide they cannot bear to part with you and try to invite themselves to your parent’s home instead. If you did not want to go home with them, you probably do not want them to go home with you either. You can use any of the choices suggested above to prevent them from turning the tables, or you can follow my next bit of advice and…
Tell the truth: You can tell your boy/girlfriend the truth about not wanting to spend Thanksgiving together, and instead wanting to spend it with your own parents solo. You can just say that your relationship is not to a point where you are ready to meet the parents, as it is a very big step. Mention that meeting parents is almost as important as engagement, and the discussion in most cases will be over.