Many women are completely against dating a man shorter than they are. It seems to intimidate the man and keeps him distant from taller women, and the women feel that they are towering over the shorter men. But, should it matter if a man is taller than you? Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman, for example, didn’t seem to have a problem with their height difference, so should anyone else?
When asking a few of my random friends if they believed and lived by some sort of height standard, the results were half and half. Some of them said they absolutely would not date anyone shorter than them, and the others said that height doesn’t matter as much to them as other qualities. One friend said that anytime she goes to parties, she won’t get asked to dance. Being the type that doesn’t consider height as a determining factor in being interested in someone, she didn’t realize why she wasn’t asked to dance. Finally, a man approached her and led her out on the dance floor. They talked for hours and their height difference, which was five inches, came into the conversation. He relayed to her that most men felt inferior and wouldn’t approach a taller woman, and my friend couldn’t believe her ears. She never knew that her height was keeping her from finding that someone special.
Understandably, being overlooked because of your height can be frustrating, but there is an upside. A man that isn’t afraid to approach a taller woman tends to be a great catch. The reason being that many shorter men are also overlooked by many women just because they’re not as tall as the standard height women look for. This leads these men to develop other, more meaningful qualities like kindness, compassion and a great sense of humor.
Of course, there is always the underlying perception that has been instilled in us to believe the man should be taller because he is the protector. Many women lose out on a great man because they can’t get past the notion that the man should be taller, and they pass many up just to try and find one that is.
If you are willing to and do date shorter men, be aware that there will be obstacles to overcome. Walking hand in hand with a man that is shy a few inches is sure to get some odd looks from others. One solution to consider is wearing flat shoes instead of heels that only make the height difference more drastic. Another solution is to forget what people think. Eventually, you’ll find that the old saying, “I’m rubber, you’re glue, whatever you say bounces back to you,” is true. Women over time develop a barrier that keeps the thoughts of others out. If you find a great man that is shorter than you, being happy should be the most important factor, not height. Not caring about whether or not people make comments or point at you on the street will only make your relationship stronger, because whatever doesn’t kill ya makes you stronger. So, next time you see a cute, shorter guy standing in the corner, remember it may be worth it to start up a conversation instead of passing him by. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you never know what you may be passing up.