You find yourself sitting across from a great guy that you met on Match.com. You can’t remember any other date going this well. He is attractive, and has all of the qualities that you are looking for in a mate. You are amazed, he would even get mom’s approval.
When the date ends, you find that you have butterflies in your stomach. Not only does this guy qualify for a second and third date, but you see the potential for a relationship with him. Unfortunately, as the weeks pass and there is no phone call, you realize that this amazing guy has no intention of ever seeing you again.
So, what did you do wrong?
Is it possible that you could have misunderstood, maybe what you thought was chemistry really wasn’t. Or maybe it is time for you to learn the top turnoffs that make good men disappear. If any of these fictional females sound like you, it is defiantly time for a first date makeover.
1 Misleading Marie: Your profile says no kids, athletic, and pulling in the big bucks. The first date reveals that you have two young kids, an extended waistline and are getting unemployment checks. Nothing brings up trust issues for a guy more than lies from the beginning.
2 Insecure Isabelle: You read into every comment a guy makes. You want to know right away if you can have date number two tomorrow. You ask the guy to call the minute he gets home. This clingy nature screams of a potential needy girlfriend who lacks independence.
3 Third-Degree Denise: You begin to cross-examine the guy before the menus arrive. You are shooting questions at him fast and furiously, and the guy begins to feel like a defendant on the stand in a criminal trial. If you make a guy feel like he is stuck under the interrogation lights, he will run for cover and never look back.
4 Tardy Tanya: You arrive late, pull no shows, change your plans at the last minute, loose his number, or flat out just don’t have any respect for the guys time. Being fashionably late is one thing, but keeping him waiting 30 minutes or pulling a no show is unacceptable.
5 High Maintenance Heidi: You say things like” Thanks for bringing me to this nice restaurant, but couldn’t you have gotten a table by the window?” When you make a guy feel like nothing is ever good enough, it makes them quit trying to impress you. What you should do is give him a simple thank you for a nice dinner and leave it at that.
6 Chatterbox Crystal: Your conversations don’t have to be fifty percent talking and fifty percent listening, but if you do all of the talking, it will feel more like a seminar than a date to the guy. Crystals opposite cousin, Pulling Teeth Patty is equally unsettling because she will make the guys do all of the work.
7 Still Hurting Sara: Everyone knows that first dates are notorious for spilling information on what went wrong with prior relationships. It is ok to share an amusing anecdote, but making it clear that you are not over your ex is a definite no no.
8 Game Player Gerry: Do you say things like;” Maybe I will kiss you goodnight and maybe I won’t.”? Good men like to know where they stand with you. They like to leave the game playing for the sports field. There is nothing wrong with a little flirting, but you have to know when it crosses over into deception and confusion.
9 Conceited Candice: Have you ever found yourself saying thinks like, “Any man would be lucky to have me.”? Well, you may be a great catch, but so is that wonderful man sitting across the table from you. You have to stop assuming every guy doesn’t deserve you, and then you will be on your way to landing a really good guy.
10 Matrimony Mary: He dips his egg roll into the duck sauce when all of a sudden, you blurt out what you think your kids names should be. Intense relationships can be exciting for a good guy, but planing your wedding before you finish your first is a definite turn off.
romantic and sexual turnoffs for men
by: Ashley Neglia