You’ve met Mr. Right, and things are almost perfect. There is only one problem, Mr. Right’s mom and dad. To put it bluntly, they don’t like you, and they are not shy about letting you know. It is not only unpleasant for you to spend time with his parents, but you also have to worry that their disapproval of you could influence how your guy feels about you.
So, how do you handle this situation so that things are not so awkward? This article will discuss how to handle his parents if they don’t like you.
1 Understand where they are coming from.
I know, how could someone not absolutely love you? Most experts agree that the likely explanation is simply fear. There is an instinct for parents to shut out someone who is “invading” their family.
Jealousy may also be an issue. His mom may feel like you are replacing her. You can reassure her that she is still number one by asking her for advice about your guy, for example how to cook his favorite meal.
Another explanation is that in many cases, parents feel threatened by you if you come form a different background. Your values or religion may conflict with their own. They may worry that you will be a bad influence on their son. You can make them more comfortable by learning about what they believe, without sacrificing your own values, show them that the two can coexist.
2 Don’t try to be their best friend.
You don’t have to be best friends with his parents, you just have to get along with them. In fact, being too eager to pleas may come across as fake. On the other hand, try not to act in awe of them. You have to avoid the urge to force a familial relationship, because these people are essentially strangers to you. You have to think of his parents as equals, and not think of them as superior to you. If you do this, you will feel more at ease and will be able to really be yourself.
3 Make it clear to them that you care about him.
Most parents’ main concern is their child’s well-being. So you may need to reassure them that you won’t break their sweet boys heart. They will never connect with you if they think you are not there to stay. You can hold his hand, kiss his cheek, when you are around them, or share a story with them about how he made you laugh. When they know your feelings are true, they will begin to trust you.
4 Your Last Resort.
If after following all of the above suggestions, his parents are still treating you terrible, stand up for yourself. If you show them that you refuse to be pushed around, they will begin to show you the respect that you deserve. So, the next time they are rude to you, just tell them that you don’t ask that they love you but you would appreciate it if you could at least be civil. You have to lay down the law and do it now, because, if by chance you marry him, the problem is only going to escalate.
5 How To Wow His Parents.
Here are three phrases that will help you dazzle his parents.
1 ” I have heard such wonderful things about you!” This is a surefire line that not only will butter up his parents but will make your honey look good too.
2 “What was he like as a child?” Get them talking about their favorite subject, their son, and they will be too distracted to notice how nervous you are.
3 “It was really nice of you to invite me to your home(or, wherever you are)” Saying thanks will show them that you have manners and lets them know that you feel honored to be included.
Sources:
http://yakuti.org/2009/03/his-parents-dont-like-me/
by Paula Odhiambo
His parents don’t like me!!
