Being female, when I see a man who’s tall, has long hair, – preferably blonde – baby blue eyes, and a smile that could melt the coldest heart, it feels like a bomb goes off and the hormones go wild! But what causes this? What are the main causes of sex appeal and attraction that differ with men and women that makes our hearts go pitter patter?
Some people say that attraction is a simple concept, however in reality, it is quite complex and can be based on our genetics, our culture, and our psyche. Nevertheless, one of the main types of attraction is based on perception in the visual sense. Does that person have the right color hair, is that person thin enough, what color are their eyes, and etc.
Visual perception is created, not only by our genes, but by our own human brain’s visual cortex. Both of those assistances combined give us a visual system that tells us what we like when we see it.
In the visual sense, why do men like women with blonde hair? Studies have shown that women having blonde hair make her look bright and different. Also the possibility of blonde hair highlighting her femininity. Some anthropologists believe that in some European locations, at the end of the Ice Age, natural blondes evolved very quickly due to sexual preference due to women with blonde hair standing out from their rivals. As for why women like men with blonde hair, which can also share the same reasoning, that man with blonde hair are in touch with their feminine side. I have always noticed that men who are blonde tend to have a fun and carefree personality.
What about brunettes? Cultural beliefs state that those with brown hair are mysterious and exotic as well as can be reliable and dependable. Brown hair sends off a visual communication to the brain that they are the daring type. So, what about black hair? Black hair gives the man or the women a sense of darkness. Extremely dark hair gives the sensation of danger. And last but not least, you have red heads. Red heads are attracted to because the color red has been known for its association with passion and love.
Any other hair color, such as green, blue, purple, or pink of course is dyed as a expression of personality which many people are drawn into those who like to make statements.
Eye colors can be along the same lines as hair color. Brown eyes and black eyes have always given the appeal of being dark and mysterious. Brown eyes are considered to be the most dominant eye color in the world. Green eyes are very rare and are most commonly seen with those naturally born with red hair. Green has always had an association with envy and many who see people with green eyes see them as to be an envious person. And of course those people with blue eyes are seen to give off a cooling and calming effect when seen.
Hair and eyes are not the only visual point of attraction. Many men and women have a tendency to observe one’s smile. Seeing someone’s smile gives the expression of happiness or pleasure. If one is able to make someone smile, then that person knows that he or she is being accepted and is not threatened. Someone’s smile also can show their teeth, especially in a natural smile. When viewing someone’s smile and seeing their teeth, many people base that on how well the person takes care of their selves as far as personal hygiene is concerned. In the long run, seeing someone with good hygiene will also reflect on the way they live.
Men and women also tend to focus visually on height and weight. Many women feel more attracted to men who are taller than them because men who are taller then the women give off a feeling of strength and protection. Many women are also attracted to men who are shorter, this giving them the feeling of looking after someone and being the protector. Men take a preference for women being shorter because they sometimes see them as being more youthful. Studies have shown that shorter women have a greater reproductive success rate.
Weight is a sensitive factor, which many heavy men or women are born that way, its just their genetics, and are turned away on dates because of their weight. However, there are many men and women out there who do not see it as any type of turn off, but rather intrigued by having more weight. Many men or women that grow up in an environment of heavy relatives will be susceptible to accepting that factor. You can also contribute the psyche to this correlation. Many children have stuffed teddy bears that are over weight and find them so cute and cuddly. Men or women who are with bigger significant others may relate to them as their teddy bear and find themselves at ease or comforted by that.
Women have a tendency to flock to the men who have slim waists and v shaped torso that is muscularly built. This gives off the idea that the male is in good sexual health, has good hygiene, and spends time concerned about his appearance and strength. Attracted on a male with this type of physique also makes the woman feel protected and safe.
Olfaction, of how the other person smells, is another prominent sexual attraction. Everyone has odor receptor genes that decode smells to be pleasant or not so pleasant. Everyone has their own opinions on what smells good and what smells awful. The natural smell that a person carries and sends out are called pheromones. These scented sex hormones are powerful and women are highly sensitive to male pheromones. These pheromones from men are released through their sweat. Females produce pheromones but they also produce an additional scent called copulins that come from vaginal secretions. So whether we know it or not, our scent is out there for everyone to smell!
Of course there are ways to cover up any foul scents or use fake scents to create yourself more appealing and create arousal. Perfumes or colognes that contain orange, jasmine, black pepper, sage, rose or cedar wood send messages to your brain, and chemically create a romantic arousing scent.
And then you have the sexual attraction based on audition. The way the other person’s voice sounds. A deep, velvety voice in males can be alluring and sexy. Studies have shown that men might find a deeper voice in females to be sexy because it accentuates the female traits as well as a high voice can do the same, but with a high female voice, it has a tendency to be too high and create a voice that shrills instead of being sweet and can become annoying.
As much as we look at sex appeal in a physical sense, there is more to attraction than just a pretty pair of blue eyes and a deep voice. We also have to look deep into the person and find out their personality and their interests.
Personality, there are sixteen basic types of personalities that everyone falls under at least one of them. The quiet type, reserved type, conscientious type, sensitive type, independent type, yeah, there is a lot of different people out there with personalities many need to have in order to even consider a relationship. Those who have a more quiet personality may require that same likeness in their partner. But others like the ‘opposites attract’ idea and believe that what they are lacking or do not have will be compensated by that of their partners personality.
As for interests, like interests create more of a stable relationship because both partners feel as though there is a connection with specific interests that assist them in developing a closer relationship. However in the case of ‘opposites attract’ if both partners have different interests they get to learn new things and experiences from one another to become a more rounded person and diverse couple!
Very few people seem to concentrate on the inner person instead of their physical features. As much as appearance is a great deal of what we look at, the inner person is in the end what we should fall in love with. Their kindness, compassion, good nature, and respect tend to go a long way in the end.
In conclusion, from eye color to personal interests, we all have our preferences whether it is because of the way we were raised or our build in genetics, everyone has someone. They could find that match in middle school and be together forever, or they could just suddenly meet on the street when their in their 50’s. No matter how young or old you are, someone will notice your inner and or outer beauty.