“My child is going to remain a virgin until she is married”,said a women at my teenage son’s school. I new to well that the likely hood of this was declining less form the time that I was a teenager. Why was this? Some blame it on the television that are young children watch, others blame it on the school system, and the their is the blame that is placed on the parents. I like to blame it on being a teenager, their hormones, and pure pressure. We as adults, must face that not all teenagers are going to remain virgins until they are married and some may not even make it to the tenth grade without at least experimenting. Does this mean that your child will begin to engage in sexual activity? Not exactly, this all depends on their view point of it.
My dad has always said that if you know that your child might be a risk factor for having sex pre-marital, it is always better to be safe. This does not mean that you should go out and buy them a box of condoms for their thirteenth birthday, this just means that you should talk to your kids and get to know what their true feelings are.
Teenage sex is a curiosity and you should take a step back and examine the way that you had felt as a teenager. This might help you to understand where they are coming from.
Teenagers are raised in a society that is trying to get the parents involved more but the society is still children that if you are going to have sex, be safe while doing it. If you think that you can keep your kids from having sex, guess again. You can not keep them from doing it, but you can prevent it from happening. If you suspect that they are already having sex, talk to them about the precautions that they should take. Even if your child is a boy, they still need to know about teenage pregnancy just as much as females do. If you don’t suspect them of having sex, the right time to talk to them is between the ages of twelve and fourteen. You heard me right, even though twelve is a young age, children are experimenting with sex at this age. The ages are different from both, boys and girls but they both need to be talked to.
Hormones have a lot to do with the way that your teenager feels. They will have mixed emotions, mood swings, and probably become interested in the opposite sex. Their hormones are raging and they may find themselves wanting to experiment to see what it is like to have sex.
Pure pressure is one of my favorite things to talk about. Pure pressure is a huge part of growing up. When I was in a young teenager, I became interested in parties that everyone was going to. I was about fourteen when I started engaging in these parties. I was accepted into this older group of teenagers because of the way that I looked. It was okay to drink, have sex, and to experiment with other things at these parties. I was still a good girl but I did see a lot of things that were going on. Amongst the things that I had saw, sex was one of them. The girls would play sex games to see how many people that they could have sex with within that year and the guys were playing sex games that would give a certain amount of points to any guy that would sleep with a certain girl. This is also known as a form of pure pressure, the others are doing it and they will think that I am cool if I do it too.
Curiosity is what caused the child to engage in teenage sex acts. I had to put this out there because it is true. Curiosity plays a huge role on a teenager having sex. When everyone else is talking about it and they can’t seem to figure out what is so good, they will eventually find themselves curious.
Does any of this mean that your teenager will have sex? Nope, I know of plenty of people that wait to have sex but it is still a fact of life that we can not ignore.