In a previous article, titled How to End a Friendship, we discussed some of the things that you should take into consideration when ending a friendship. One of the main things that you may be wondering is when it may be time to end a friendship. Here, we will take a closer look at some of the signs that it may be time to either end a friendship, or at least take a break from your friendship in order to reevaluate exactly what it is going on.
Sign That You Should End Your Friendship #1: You’re Sick of Being Around Your Friend
There is no doubt that too much togetherness can be too much of a good thing. For example, if you have recently taken a vacation with a friend that you do not normally spend very much time with, it is likely that you both may have gotten sick of each other after awhile. This is perfectly normal. However, if you rarely see your friend but dread every minute that you have to, this is a sign that you should consider ending your friendship. If you complain about being around your friend, whether it is out loud or in your head, it may be time to reevaluate your friendship. We are supposed to have fun when we spend time with friends – not feel as though we are suffering through every minute that we need to spend with them.
Sign That You Should End Your Friendship #2: You’ve Argued With Your Friend More Frequently Lately
Constant arguing with a friend is not something that anyone wants to experience. Although there may be some instances in which arguments may be acceptable, there are other instances in which they are not. Before you decide to end a friendship over constant arguments, there are several things that you should take into consideration first. Determine whether or not you argue over certain topics. For example, do all of your arguments with your friend revolve around religion or politics? These are two topics that you should know to avoid with just about anyone, but particularly anyone that you know you will argue with. The same holds true for any subject you and your friend may argue over. If you find that you argue with your friend about any subject, then you should keep in mind that it may root back to the whole too much togetherness issue. Taking a break may be the best idea, unless you have already tried everything and know that you will only continue to argue with your friend. In this case, it may be time to end a friendship.
Sign That You Should End Your Friendship #3: Your Friend is a Bad Influence on You or Tries to Pressure You
Many people believe that this is the only instance in which you should end a friendship. If your friend is a bad influence on you or tries to pressure you into doing things that you do not want to do, it is likely that you should consider ending your friendship. If you do not smoke marijuana, it is highly unlikely that you will not want to be friends with someone who only wants to spend their time smoking marijuana and begging you to smoke marijuana with them. Although we often associate this type of pressure with addictive substances, such as drugs or alcohol, it can really relate to anything. For example, if your friend knows that you are on a diet, it would not be in his or her best interest to shove cookies or double cheeseburgers in your face and ask you to eat them. If you feel pressured or influenced negatively in any way, this may be grounds to end a friendship.
Sign That You Should End Your Friendship #4: Your Friend Constantly Puts You Down or Competes With You
As humans, it is generally in our nature to value what our friends have to say. When our friends only have negative things to say, it can really have a huge affect on our self-confidence. If your friend is constantly putting you down, then this is a sign that you should probably no longer be a part of this friendship. If your friend is constantly competing with you, this is a sign that he or she feels some sort of jealousy towards you. Whether your friends wants to be skinnier than you, tanner than you or have more people of the opposite sex attracted to her than you, it is likely that this type of competition will always exist in your friendship. If you do not want to deal with this or being put down by a friend, then the best thing that you can do is end the friendship.
Sign That You Should End Your Friendship #5: You Feel As Though Your Friendship Brings You Down
If you really feel as though your friendship brings you down, this is a good sign that you should consider ending your friendship. There are many reasons that you feel as though a friendship brings you down. For example, does your friend constantly complain about all of the problems in her life, which ultimately makes you annoyed and frustrated with hearing about it? Or perhaps all of the other problems, such as constant arguing and competition, may be behind the reason that you feel your friendship brings you down. Friendships are meant to bring us happiness, not negativity.
If you feel that your life is being negatively affected in any way by a certain friendship, it may be time to reevaluate that friendship and considering ending your friendship – for now, at least. Later on in life, it may be possible for you to reunite with a certain friend and have a much better connection than you do right now. It is also important to keep in mind that there may be situations in which you need to end a friendship because of yourself and the negative energy that you may have caused for others. Although we often enjoy blaming the end of a friendship on the other person, there are times when it may be our own fault. In many cases, like with a relationship, certain people just are not meant to be friends.