I recently wrote an article that was inspired by a family of girls having three consecutive weddings at the father’s expense. It is entitled “Ideas for Planning Multiple Consecutive Weddings in One Family” (Look for it on AC). I couldn’t stop wondering however, why two or three of the girls did not opt to have a double/ triple wedding.
Instead of throwing three weddings, the parents could have instead planned a lavish wedding day that would have brought out all family members and friends and had a wonderful occasion. They would have saved money on catering, photography, wedding and reception venue and flowers. In my mind, a double wedding is the perfect solution when three sisters decide to say, “I do” all at once.
I could only theorize on why separate weddings were necessary.
Competitiveness: There was a time when sisters were very close and the chance of a double wedding would be the only thing to make a wedding day more special. However, we live in a “me first” society where competition and one-up-man-ship is normal, even within families. Therefore, I have to wonder if each sister is not trying to out do the other at the father’s expense.
Attention: Every bride wants to be the most beautiful girl in the room with all of the attention on your. Having a multiple wedding would split the attention and so the idea of a multiple wedding has to stay just an idea.
Clashing styles: What one sister considers fashionable, the other considers boring. Likewise what one sister feels is chic, the other calls tacky. This could certainly get in the way of planning a wedding together. I would think however that if you are going to get married, you might as well get a jump-start on learning how to compromise. Blending styles for a wedding could be good practice for styles with your future husband for a lifetime.
Grooms: Perhaps the grooms do not like the idea of sharing their wedding day and guest lists with their future extended family members. For whatever reason, they may want to keep their wedding celebration all to themselves. They certainly have that right.
In the end, I still contend that a double wedding is the sensible thing to do when multiple siblings are getting married in a very short time. Unless the parents are also against the idea, insisting on anything else can seriously hurt the parent’s finances, if they are paying of course. If the parents are not paying, well then, to each his or her own.