One of the things that has always boggled my mind is why anyone would want to date a player. While I have not personally tried to chase after a player, I have watched friend after friend chase after them. It would be one thing if these guys, or girls, did not make it obvious that they were so unfaithful. In many cases though, a player will openly admit that he cheats on his girlfriend or wife (or her boyfriend or husband, depending on the scenario). So, what is all the hype about dating someone who you know is a cheater? Here, I will share some of the reasons that I personally believe are why many men and women make the decision to chase after players.
We Are Born With Competitive Natures
Whether you believe it or not, our society is filled by people who are competitive. Look at the shows that we watch – Survivor, American Idol, the Bachelor/ Bachelorette, America’s Next Top Model, and the list could go on forever. We all find it very reassuring to know that we are better than somebody else. By making the decision to chase after someone who is known to cheat, you will be able to show your own competitive nature. You will be competing against all of the other women and men who the person you are chasing after sees. Chances are that you will probably be hoping that every spare moment of time that you have will be spent between you and the one you are chasing after, rather than this time being spent between the player and all of the other men or women that he or she sees. When you get to spend time with the player, you will feel as though you have “won,” because you have “beat out” other people by getting the opportunity to spend time with them. The main competition that many people who are interested in players face is getting the player to leave someone to instead begin a relationship with them. I think that the competition associated with dating a player is one of the main reasons that so many people decide to get involved with one.
We Don’t Believe Anything Can Ever Happen to Us
Chances are that you have probably said, “that could never happen to me,” yourself. I know that I have at some point. Well, this seems to hold true when it comes to pursue a player. Although you know that the person cheats on the person that they are in a relationship with, you may look at it as a one time thing. Whether the player which you are trying to pursue has made you believe that it is one a time thing or if it is because you think that you are better than the person who he or she is currently cheating on, you are gullible enough to believe that you will not get cheated on. Of course, this is not to say that some people who date players will always get cheated on. In most cases, however, the old saying holds true – “once a player, always a player.”
The Thrill Of Having Something Everyone Else Wants
When you were a child, if everybody else wanted a pair of hot pink roller blades, you just had to have them. It comes back to our natures being competitive. We just have to be better than everyone else, even if it means winning something – or in this case, winning someone over. It makes us feel good about ourselves to know that we have something which everybody else wants, just like when we were kids. Even if you realize that there is the possibility that you could be cheated on, you just want it to be so that you are the only one that the person can officially call “theirs” (whether it be girlfriend, boyfriend, wife, or husband). The entire thrill of having something else that so many people want is enough for many to pursue a player.
These are just some of the reasons that I personally feel can be held accountable for the desire that many feel to pursue a player. If you are trying to figure out why the only type of people who you try to pursue are players, you may have noticed that one or more of these reasons could be why. As mentioned previously, it is important to keep in mind that the saying “once a player, always a player” typically holds true. You will often find that chasing after players will often only cause you more harm than good.